"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My thread was moved, I think because of not displaying the age but I wanted to continue to discuss it with the MM forum. here is the link.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=181193

My last response was to Danger
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Agree with the others.

I noted in your original post that you never

Mention who dumped who.
Who ended the texting messages by not replying any longer.
Who's circumstances changed after NYE that prevented the hanging out.

Now, based on your confusion as well as asking here what happened, and add into the matter that you spoke to your friends about it, I am going to guess that she is the one that ended it and wanted to move on.

My advice is to find more girls and not even bother replying the next time this girl sends you a validation seeking text.


- I dumped her but it was really one of those things that it was going to happen regardless. If i didnt do it, she probably would have. We basically ended things because we were drifting apart and I was moving away for work. im back now.
- the text messaging was ended by her I believe. The context was basically the day after the NYE part she was asking how my night ended and I told her, then she came back and said what she did following day and I think I replied with a joke and that was it.
- Her circumstance prevented her hanging out that night. Her friend that she came with was throwing up and ended up having to go home with her.
- She couldnt play softball last night because of work, atleast thats what she texted.

I am dating someone right now, I am just not into this girl fully, kind of a temp thing. I would rather be with the girl I mentioning but Im not putting my life on hold for her which is why Im dating this new girl.

Maybe it might be a good idea to put up some pictures of me and this girl im dating on facebook so the other girl can see that I am dating another girl.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I understand your position. But what can you do other than control your own reality? No need to put pictures on facebook. Create some mystery. Let her wonder if you are single or not. It makes the story interesting.

The only way you can "win" is to move on.
 
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Putting pictures on facebook makes you sound weak and needy. Just live your life. If you're happy, if you're successful, it'll show. She'll hear about it.

There's no need to play games like a woman. That's no way for a man to live his life.
 
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Iceberg said:
Putting pictures on facebook makes you sound weak and needy. Just live your life. If you're happy, if you're successful, it'll show. She'll hear about it.

There's no need to play games like a woman. That's no way for a man to live his life.
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Your post sums up the problem 90% of the guys here have with women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pumpit21 said:
- I dumped her but it was really one of those things that it was going to happen regardless.
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If that is true why did you allow her to spark your interest all over again ? Dry spell ?

Once again we read about a guy who was so easily drawn back into an ex's game by reacting to her gushing and giggles as if they were genuine expressions of interest..
PUMPIT, you have been the willing victim of one of the oldest traps in girl world.
Her "friendly" manner was a snare to capture your interest and set you up for the rejection that she had been planning from the day after you dumped her.. Old g/fs who have been dumped are always on a mission of revenge.
IF they contact you after a few months or years it always points to the same agenda - a big 'get even' is in progress.
They NEVER want a second chance, or an opportunity to re-establish the relationship, they want to HURT you for hurting them and they will wait years to pull the trigger.

Her rejection of you was ultimately executed in her cold attitude after she knew that your interest in her was renewed .
She dumped you (in her mind at least ) subtly by creating confusion in you about her intentions.
Indeed, she was so successful in bewildering you that you felt the need to make two threads about the situation.

Live and learn.
 
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Dear Pumpit,
Don't go ahead with this.
 
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