After 7 1/2 months still not affectionate enough

[Plain & Simple]

Ive been with this girl for 7 months and a half, but for some reason i feel like she aint affectionate enough towards me, i feel like she doesnt treat me like a bf but like a friend.

Like at the beginning she'll way happy.......amiversary everymonth on the date of it, now she doesnt even do that, she forgets it.

Like last night we went out to watch a movie, i picked her up, she didnt even give me a kiss, that didnt happen before, we didnt even touch each other thruout the whole movie, so that got me quite upset, during our way back home from the movies she didnt say one word and its a good 20 min ride, yet when i droped her home she wanna give me a hug and a kiss, i didnt even look at her i just said bye, and as u would guess now we aint talking cause of last night.

Even with the sex, before we use to have sex every day, now its once every one or two weeks if lucky, and it aint as good as before.

Should i break up with this girl or what should i do here, it seems like she doesnt give a damn, even now that we mad, i bet u if i dont talk to her first she wont come up to me, im the one that gotta go up to her even when she is mad at me.

Did i mention that i have never been in her place yet, in all this time, i know she lives with her parents but so do i, and we fuk at our place eeeeeeeeverytime, i have never step foot into hers.

 

[squirrels]

Either she's getting comfortable...


...or YOU are getting too comfortable and, as a result, FAILING to create proper attraction.

There's no hardball tactics here or anything...if YOU want more excitement, more passion in your romantic life, it's up to YOU to find ways of getting it there. And if you've tried everything and she still doesn't respond, THEN it's time to move on.

 

[aftershock]

Sometimes LTRs just fizzle out.

Mines been going strong for over a year and a half. I just makes sure that I'm always a fun guy to be with. And I find the sex gets BETTER, not worse.

Perhaps a break would do you good.

 

[Plain & Simple]

i see, i mean ofcourse that she is gonna get confortable, thats gonna happen regardless but dang... to the point that she doesnt even hug or kiss etc.... shell only do that when i drop her home never when we first see each other for the day.

 

[Plain & Simple]

yeh it seems like a break would be the best thing to do...

 

[Colossus]

BREAK?!?

Thats just an excuse to go screw other people.

Either modify or step up what you've been doing, or cut it clean.

She probably wont change (for the better) unless you do first.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She is sexing other dudes!!!

Never met her parents????? Hmmmmm, maybe because she has other dudes and she doesn't want her mama to know that you should be the only one!

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^i dont know may be she does...she has lied to me a lot of times about her how many past partners shes had, she even lied about if she had sex with her latest ex who she was with for nearly a yr, so go figure, now i just recently hear that her ex said that she is a "fuker" and not the good girl image that she tries to portrait.

I have never met her parents or brothers or nothing and never ever been in her house, i have only talked to her mom once and i was for less than 15 secs and over the phone.

now ofcourse me and her aint talking cause of last sat, but i dont give a fuk no more...wateva

 

[djbr]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
She is sexing other dudes!!!

Never met her parents????? Hmmmmm, maybe because she has other dudes and she doesn't want her mama to know that you should be the only one!

Haha, even with a "HO" you're supposed to know her parents if you're the "principal", hehe.

You're second choice, no doubt about it.

A girl usually wants you to know even her fvckin' dog when you start with this BF thing.

I'm with PR_L. She is sexing other dudes. And she is not a good liar, too. Some girls will make you think you're her world AND cheat on you like hell.

You have enough signals dude.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Hate to quote myself, but this is from another thread on the same topic:

When women do this they've gotten comfortable. When you're a challenge, when you don't give them what they want, when you're unpredictable and confident enough to leave her for a better prospect that's when she has genuine desire to have you do things like feel her up in public. Essentially you have to go back to the state in which she was first attracted to you and become a man that she's willing to compete for. This is exactly why women will continually return to the 'Jerk Boyfriend', the 'Jerk' never allows them to get comfortable and keeps them in a constant state of competition anxiety. Of course the Jerk can take this too far and become abusive, but this is the 'be the PRIZE' attitude you should really attempt to maintain from the outset with any woman, never allowing her to think she isn't replaceable. It's for this reason that fat chicks try harder in bed, they have a conscious imperative that tells them they are replaceable. Deprivation and the threat of it is a powerful motivator; and women ought to know, they've been effectively using it with men since the stone age. It's time men learn to use it as well.

Start locking her out, start reclaiming your identity - you know, the one you had before you met her. This is who she wanted to fvck in the begining. This is the guy she was concerned about competing with other women for. Make her uncomfortable and genuinely be ready to walk and give her up if it comes to it. I've known so many guys who've been involved with frigid, but formerly insatiable women, who have broken it off with them only to have the previously indifferent or controlling girlfriend go insanely sexual on the guy after a month or two of weekends wondering if he was out fvcking other women. It's the security dynamic at play, even inspite of a recognized break up. You take a comfortable, passionless-desireless girlfriend and dump a cold bucket of raw competition on them and you'll see how quickly she turns around. Either that or she'll move on; in either case you win, because you're not emotionally tied to an asexual partner any longer or she comes back to her original desire.

If you do in fact turn her back around it's important to remember and take steps not to allow her to fall back into this state of comfort again. That's not to say be an A-Hole or an abuser, but to set a new standard for your relationship based on your newly recognized value to her. And again, understand that women communicate covertly, and rarely ever overtly. You need to be able to master this communication too. You cannot overtly say "If you wont fvck me, I'm outta here b!tch!" You must covertly imply with your words and behaviors that this is the case.

 

[Plain & Simple]

The cheating part its out of the picture, i know she aint cheating on me, im very positive on that.

Dotn get me wrong she hasnt met my dad neither and she only met my step mom by accident. What pisses me off is that ive been bringing her over to my place and fukin her at my place for the whooooooooole time thta weve known each other, ive never ever ever step one foot in her place, and like i said ive talked to her mom once and thats it, so did she with my real mom though.

I appreciate the advice but i would like some advice in how to act and what to do to get her and keep her out of that confort zone.

As for now like i said, we are not talking and havent talked since saturday, thats me though, i decided not to talk her cause of how she acted thruout the date.

 

[Plain & Simple]

quick! before i see her tomorrow, so i know how to act around her