"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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After 4.5 months of work, my girlfriend is hooked on abstinence!

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All of my work has been ruined by a lecture from a health teacher. Now, my girl doesn't wanna have sex until she's married, and she doesn't plan on marriage till like 10 years from now!

And I was soooooooooooooooooo f'in close!

But in all seriousness, I love her to death, but DAMN, I really can't wait that long!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Byronic Hero

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Originally posted by zachamun
tell her that you both have needs in the relationship and one of yours is to have sex.
That's a good way to get yourself screwed... not the way he wants either.

I don't have any good advice at the moment though. 4 and a half months is awfully short. Wait it out.
 

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Give her a week at least, she seems pretty impulsive about it...girls do get horny, you know.
 

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Originally posted by Byronic Hero
That's a good way to get yourself screwed... not the way he wants either.

I don't have any good advice at the moment though. 4 and a half months is awfully short. Wait it out.
4.5 months awfully short, sorry buddy, in HS allmost all relationships are about sex and not looking like a slut, if there not about sex its about status.

You need to get her in the moment, make her horny. If your open about the kinda **** then talk to her about it but that doesn't happen much in HS relationships. Just make her horny and go from there, girls dont always do what they say.

But yeah 4.5 months, if your in it for the sex you have wasted alot of time man.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Don't get impatient-at least, don't show her that you're impatient. That would reinforce the notion that you're only in it for the sex, and her shields would go on full blast. Be calm, and don't let on that it's frustrating you. Take a "devil may care" attitude, and focus on having a good time that doesn't involve sex (which in my experience often leads to it.) Just use your skills and slowly persuade her over to the dark side.
 

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If you need instant action, let's recognize this girl isn't option #1;).

If you're in it for the long haul, wait for a little bit and see if she changes her mind. Ask her why she chose to think that, and try to calm her fears.

As long as you're gunna use protection, the health ed. teacher can go to hell.
 

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You don't want to get in her pants. Unstead get her so turned on that she gives her pants to you.;)
 

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Funny thing is that I never brought up sex with her, she was the one who said when we first started going out that she didn't want to have sex until she was married and then like 3 months ago (after saying she loved me) she told me that she wanted me to "make love" to her.

Maybe the cycle will start over??? Cus I can get her wet just like that. BTW, how do I ask her about oral sex, I mean if she still wants to do that?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Heh, guess I'm kind of spoiled about the sex thing ;). But I know exactly what your talking about with the whole health teacher thing. We took 2 days to go over why you shouldn't have sex and stuff and those teachers are very tactful in how they deliver their message. I'm sure STD's were brought up and extremly over exagerrated.

Example
Me: Well if you use a condom what is their to worry about?
Teach: Well say she has a syphilus sore that goes all the way up to her stomach, you'll still come in contact with it even though you are wearing a condom.

(Ok honestly if a girl has some huge ****ing sore going all the way up to her stomach from her pubic area I am not gonna mess around with it in the first place ;))

They are big on making girls out to be sluts to if they do have sex.

My city has like the third highest teen pregnancy rate in the nation, or something like that been a long time since I've heard about it and can't remember exactly. So that does make the whole "consensual" battle not as bad as some have it.

I would approach it from the angle of not anticipating sex on any given evening. If she's your girlfriend of 4.5 months I'm sure you two are showing strong physical attraction to each other. You just need to get her alone, something kind of romantic (not in a car, and not in a party with 15 people standing outside the room.) Parents going out with friends for dinner and a movie is a good oppurtunity to take her back to the casa.

Set the mood, take her to your room, put on some good music (John Mayer ;) he never fails for this kind of situation.) Start making out and etc and slowly progress things. Reading the bibles articles on fore play is a good place to start. Turn up HER horniness.

If you really want me to elaborate further on once you get her in this situation I will but I have faith you can figure it out plus that post would be just as long as this one and I'm to sick and tired to keep on typing.

Good luck to you bro.
 

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There are ways around this. Are you willing to mess with her mind?
 

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I do not see the problem, it is her choice and once a women makes her decision their is no turning back, as that is there femlae psyche. But you gotta ask yourself, is she making you happy right now? Cos everything matters at this present moment in time, not the future or the past but what you are feeling right now. If she is, then kudos, good for you. If shes not then their are so many women out there, you can easily hook one with your long fish pole because afterall you are a DJ.

It also seems like she is testing you, you say that she wanted YOU to 'make love to her', you are a DJ you have to seduce her to make 'love' to her. Not sex but the actual feeling of love. You want her to feel that emotional connection with you and if you do suceed, she is yours for the taking.
 
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