After 2nd date, what now?

[RicBoy]

I met a girl through a group of friends in a party, and we had a one night stand at her place. Sex was decent and I left in the morning.
I texted her day after, told her I want to keep seeing her and she agreed. Few days later I texted and we plan to meet at her place Friday night.
We had food, wine and she said, so after sex you leave right? I said I was thinking to stay over because it was cold and dark and public transportation would take a bit. She said its best if you leave. I said, you know what I'll leave now, no need for sex, I didn't come here for this. She ran after me and apologised and told me to stay. Cut long story short, I put a hell of fuuck in her and I could see within minutes she had this puppy lovey eyes looking at me and would come to kiss me all the time and hug. She was acting like my gf all of the sudden..We banged like 7 times all night long. Morning I left and she initiated texting.

Now the issue, this girl has never had a relationship in last 20 years, only **** buddies, no kids, very independent. Told me she sees a shrink to help her to bond with people which she cant.
Should I text her once a week for dates or wait she initiates? Im starting to have a feeling this is going to be me reaching out and sometimes she says yes and sometimes she says no, im not sure but im guessing...I dearly hate to chase females. Are women suppose to reach out after a few dates? This one has attachment issues, and its going to be a problem.

 

[Knight of Roses]

I think you’re reading too much into this. I would initiate once a week or however frequent you want to hook up with her and see how things play out.

 

[RicBoy]

I think you’re reading too much into this. I would initiate once a week or however frequent you want to hook up with her and see how things play out.

Maybe you’re right.
I’ll just keep reaching out once a week and evaluate the way she responds. If I start to feel she is pulling back I’ll just go no contact

 

[NealIRC]

Does she not have kids because she doesn't want kids? Or nobody has yet been worthy of her.

 

[RicBoy]

Does she not have kids because she doesn't want kids? Or nobody has yet been worthy of her.

She said she hasn’t had a relationship since she was 18. She is 35 now.

 

[Stanley]

Well clearly she has some baggage, the question is has she dealt with it? What does she want? what do you want?

Her asking you to leave after the indoor olympics implies to me that she assumed this was a fwb situation. You made it clear you didn't come just for sex and attempt to leave and she chases you down. Might've been a test? might've been a nutty girl who doesn't know what she wants.... Did you not want to sleep with her that not as you felt used for sex?

Just hit her up if you want to see her. If she reaches out to you then that's cool too.

 

[RicBoy]

Well clearly she has some baggage, the question is has she dealt with it? What does she want? what do you want?

Her asking you to leave after the indoor olympics implies to me that she assumed this was a fwb situation. You made it clear you didn't come just for sex and attempt to leave and she chases you down. Might've been a test? might've been a nutty girl who doesn't know what she wants.... Did you not want to sleep with her that not as you felt used for sex?

Just hit her up if you want to see her. If she reaches out to you then that's cool too.

I’m a bit of bad boy but I treat everyone with respect. Not even a prostitute likes to be treated like a w-hore. I wanted to treat her well. I wanted to stay for the night also because I knew I could seduce her. I think I want to pursue a casual relationship with her and see where the road takes us.

 

[Stanley]

I’m a bit of bad boy but I treat everyone with respect. Not even a prostitute likes to be treated like a w-hore. I wanted to treat her well. I wanted to stay for the night also because I knew I could seduce her. I think I want to pursue a casual relationship with her and see where the road takes us.

Nice, I like this. To me it seems perhaps you passed a test (intentional or not) and showcased a high level of self worth to this girl. Most guys would take the offer and high tail it out of there afterwards, but you didn't.

 

[NealIRC]

She said she hasn’t had a relationship since she was 18. She is 35 now.

Sounds like it should be she that should be chasing guys.

 

[manfrombelow]

I met a girl through a group of friends in a party, and we had a one night stand at her place. Sex was decent and I left in the morning.
I texted her day after, told her I want to keep seeing her and she agreed. Few days later I texted and we plan to meet at her place Friday night.

1. Bad move in the bolded part. If the sex was truly "decent," then she should be the one who wants to keep seeing you again, and she should be the one who initiated text after that. The fact you texted her first begging to see her again (which got an approval from her) was pathetic and a beta move.

2. Cut long story short, I put a hell of fuuck in her and I could see within minutes she had this puppy lovey eyes looking at me and would come to kiss me all the time and hug. She was acting like my gf all of the sudden..We banged like 7 times all night long. Morning I left and she initiated texting.

2. I know exactly the "puppy eyes" you are talking about. Usually women gave you that look when they liked you so much. In this regard, it seemed you did everything correctly. Especially she initiated texting the next day.

Now the issue, this girl has never had a relationship in last 20 years, only **** buddies, no kids, very independent. Told me she sees a shrink to help her to bond with people which she cant.
Should I text her once a week for dates or wait she initiates? Im starting to have a feeling this is going to be me reaching out and sometimes she says yes and sometimes she says no, im not sure but im guessing...I dearly hate to chase females. Are women suppose to reach out after a few dates? This one has attachment issues, and its going to be a problem.

3. You should just treat her as a FWB aka fvck buddy no more no less, when you feel like seeing her (to fvck of course), you text her you're coming over. If she says ok, then you come over, if she says she's on period or busy or unavailable that day, you say cool take care see you next time. This is exactly what's happening between me and the FWB I'm having right now.

Don't worry too much, buddy. Keep hitting that pvssy good, meeting other women, taking care of yourself, and don't overthink stuff.

 

[RicBoy]

1. Bad move in the bolded part. If the sex was truly "decent," then she should be the one who wants to keep seeing you again, and she should be the one who initiated text after that. The fact you texted her first begging to see her again (which got an approval from her) was pathetic and a beta move.



2. I know exactly the "puppy eyes" you are talking about. Usually women gave you that look when they liked you so much. In this regard, it seemed you did everything correctly. Especially she initiated texting the next day.



3. You should just treat her as a FWB aka fvck buddy no more no less, when you feel like seeing her (to fvck of course), you text her you're coming over. If she says ok, then you come over, if she says she's on period or busy or unavailable that day, you say cool take care see you next time. This is exactly what's happening between me and the FWB I'm having right now.

Don't worry too much, buddy. Keep hitting that pvssy good, meeting other women, taking care of yourself, and don't overthink stuff.

I saw some signs that maybe she likes me but probably afraid of commitment because it her issues. Like the puppy eyes. Also when I was leaving the house she told me to kiss her before I leave.
Anyways maybe no need to over think.
I just don’t want this to turn into me calling texting and planning meet ups and her doing nothing. We all know what happens when you over pursue a woman

 

[Murk]

Keep it was fwb once a week, this isn't a girl you want for an LTR.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop trying to force LTRs onto women who clearly aren't LTR material. Just keep seeing and banging her and have fun while it lasts.

This chick is likely some form of psycho.

 

[The Duke]

You've got a crazy one on your hands, please don't fall for this chic.

 

[RicBoy]

You did chase by reacting like that to her request.
You are all ready giving off needy vibes and she picked up on that.
On top of that she sounds like a 304.
Keep banging her if you want this is just a plate.
Proceed with caution

What needy vibes?

 

[RicBoy]

Why am I needy? Because I told her I’m not down to **** wash and go? She lives 2h away by public transportation. If I’m going that far, I want dinner sex and breakfast, and if she is not down to it good luck. I like to well treated. All the girls I’ve been with have treated me this way and it worked out. I don’t really do these plates things no more. Gotta be a hell of model for me to travel 2h for a quicky only

 

[Bokanovsky]

Should I text her once a week for dates or wait she initiates? Im starting to have a feeling this is going to be me reaching out and sometimes she says yes and sometimes she says no, im not sure but im guessing...I dearly hate to chase females. Are women suppose to reach out after a few dates? This one has attachment issues, and its going to be a problem.

Who cares? As long as you are not treating it a serious relationship (and you'd be a fool to get seriously involved with someone's who is seeing a shrink for "attachment issues"), it doesn't matter who initiates.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]