"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
After 2 years of NC. BPD ex contacts me.(A MUST SEE)
- Thread starter Jair213
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yep, of all the women I've dated over the years, only two were BPDs, they aren't hard to miss, and it is way overdiagnosed. I happened to date two in a row, one had admitted she was BPD through projecting onto her BPD sister. The "sister" may or not have been BPD too, but she was really talking about herself. So I knew the likely source of the second textbook one's behaviors.
1. They will turn infantile, like a googoo bawling baby crawling around on the floor, yeah, really crawling around on the floor and wailing, grabbing at your ankles, unprovoked, merely due to leaving for work. Then will send 20-30 texts in the next hour or so. Mine were high paid career women, and the first time you see it, it's like wooooaaaaah.
2. You will wake up in the night to them whispering some kind of hoodoo gibberish in your ear in a weird voice. They have a dull, dead mirror look in their eyes, wear lots of eye makeup to hide it. Nobody home.
3. No boundaries at all. They will take a **** in front of you the first time you sleep with them, walk around naked, want you to "examine" their ******* and cooch like a doctor, always always some fake kind of medical issues, one of mine went to the ER ten times in a month while we were dating, had gotten kicked out of nearby ERs so had to go across town and eventually had to start going to doc in the box, nothing wrong with her physically at all.
4. Thing is, because they tend to be hot and uninhibited, we are suckered in by the sex with a movie star looking woman, and then once they know that we are on the hook, they start with the polarizing. One instant you are a fiend for not putting a fork in the right place in the drawer, the next they are declaring undying love, that they will love you their whole life no matter what. 1000 texts a month, no exaggeration, saying just that over and over, how you are either a monster or the love of their life.
5. They know the signs that they have been figured out, that you are getting tired of them, the sex is wearing off as a manipulation tool, then they are off to the next host while maybe even projecting cheating on you. Then after the breakup, you become some kind of abusive or drug addicted monster all over their social network, which thankfully is blessedly limited to one or two GFs, the few family that still puts up with them, and the guys who are hanging around trying to f-ck them. Then forever after, they will contact a few times a year to put out feelers for supply.
That's what a BPD looks like, it's not just a garden variety princess.
Brrrrrrr. Never again.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
This b!tch is obviously looking for some type of reply from me, or see if I would submit to her. I hope she doesn't contact none of my cousins or family members. Smh.