Afraid of Rejection

[harkkam08]

Guys, Ive been on these sites for a while. I have been doing my reading. However when it comes to actually doing approaches I get sh*t scared.

I have a few fears that creep up inside me and make me hesitant
1) Am I good looking enough
2) What if I say something boring
3) What if she doesnt laugh at my jokes
4) What if my mind goes blank

I know Im trying to control the situation too much but I have had attempts where I have been rejected and I felt like sh*t afterwards about myself. I felt like a loser for not being socially advanced enought to attract women.

So I just don't go ahead with doing an approach because I know if it fails I'll feel like crap.

When I talk to women I usually feel alot of anxiety on the inside and that stunts my ability to be ****y funny. I tend to become monotone and boring because my mind kind of shuts down and i can hear myself saying things out of desperation which I normally would not like to say in more calmer circumstances.

So all the fears I mentioned above seem to stem from my experience of being in an approach and having anxiety hijack my mental abilites to have something to say or convey it with the right body language.

 

[WalkingStick]

Realize that some girls you approach will not be receptive to ANYONE. She may be pissed off, tired, or even nervous.

Know that you ARE a great guy. There are tons of women out there who want you. If a girl you approach does not respond to you, it is because there is something wrong with HER. It is HER LOSS. She has no idea what she just missed out on.

If you begin to think this way, you will develop confidence and happiness.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

As kids, my friend and I used to go door to door when it snowed, asking people if we could shovel their snow.

We would knock on someones door and ask them if we could shovel their snow for $10. If they said no, we'd say "okay" and go to the next house.

After the first rejection, we were excited. After the second rejection, we were even more excited. By the third and forth rejection, we were tingling in excitement. By the fifth rejection, we couldn't even regain composure, we were so excited that we were practically foaming from the mouth.

We were excited because we knew we were that much closer to someone who wouldn't say no.

That's when I realized, the more people that say no, the closer you are to a yes. In order to become a bigger success, you need to become an even bigger failure. I realized that the more door bells I rang, the more people I asked if I could shovel their snow, the more people that said no, the more excited I was because I knew that I was that much closer to a yes

Each rejection should make you even more excited. Don't get rejected 5 times and quit, because the 6th one could of been a yes.