This girl whom i was pretty close with for a while recently changed. It use to be her who always approach me but lately she stopped. The one thing that i keep noticing was she was afriad of eye contact. She'd always quickly look away when i look at her. Anyone had this happening to them before?
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Afraid of Eye Contact
- Thread starter Oni
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penkitten
Master Don Juan
she wants you and is embarrased to look in your eyes.
That was what i had in mind. But under my circumstances i wasn't sure. Because lately she has been acting rather different towards me. Before we use to be talking with each other a lot and lots of kino but lately she wouldn't initiate conversations anymore, maybe shes not interested anymore? But why then is she afraid of eye contacts. An interesting thing that i noticed was she got closer to my guy friends and further from me. That sure astounded me.
redbyte
Don Juan
She could just not be interested.
I had this happen to me with this one chick. She would always look into the distance when we were in conversation. She wasn't shy, she just wasn't interested.
But then I started being less AFC and more DJ and using neg hits. Now she bearly breaks eye contact.
But could definately be different for you. Hard to tell with a description over the net.
If shes staring at the ground and fixing her hair. I'd say shy. If shes looking level but at other people or things in the distance I'd say not interested.
I had this happen to me with this one chick. She would always look into the distance when we were in conversation. She wasn't shy, she just wasn't interested.
But then I started being less AFC and more DJ and using neg hits. Now she bearly breaks eye contact.
But could definately be different for you. Hard to tell with a description over the net.
If shes staring at the ground and fixing her hair. I'd say shy. If shes looking level but at other people or things in the distance I'd say not interested.
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I think she likes you, cuz sometimes when i like someone i would look try to avoid eye contact, and some girl that likes me whenevr she looks at me in class and like she sees that i could see her, she turns away fast.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
If she breaks eye contact and looks down, then away, then she likes you.
If not, then NEXT!
If not, then NEXT!