Afraid of day game, why??

[Daily Insanity]

Guys I need some help, I want to jump-start my day game, unfortunately every time I tell myself it's time to go I fall flat on my face and chicken out. I feel like my AA is taking over whenever I want to go up to a Hb, and it shoves a knife in my stomach (at least that's what it feels like). Can't seem to shake this feeling.

Today I went to my hair salon and this hb9 receptionist who I've seen there before was working. I thought it was my perfect chance to get out of my AA bullshlt. I walked in said hi to her and she let me have my haircut for free. By no means am I a bad looking guy so I thought after my haircut I was gonna get this chicks number and run off into the sunset. The second my haircut was done a knife went into my stomach and I left the salon like a bltch. Kicking myself in the head, I realized how much of a Pansy I am. Maybe I need to wear a skirt? :cheer:

Guys I need your help desperately, I want to jump start my day game.

 

[yuppaz]

You are putting too much meaning into talking to girls. The truth is, you need to open up and start talking to everyone like a normal person and not for some outcome (getting her number etc.). Be a friendly person and get comfortable with that first and think of what you are doing as just getting practice. For a while don't even try at ALL to get dates. That will come in time (and not much, I promise)! If you need examples check youtube to see it isn't a big deal at all. keep a log on here I want to help you, but need to get abetter understanding of your mindset.

 

[Daily Insanity]

You are putting too much meaning into talking to girls. The truth is, you need to open up and start talking to everyone like a normal person and not for some outcome (getting her number etc.). Be a friendly person and get comfortable with that first and think of what you are doing as just getting practice. For a while don't even try at ALL to get dates. That will come in time (and not much, I promise)! If you need examples check youtube to see it isn't a big deal at all. keep a log on here I want to help you, but need to get abetter understanding of your mindset.

I would appreciate that, however my issue does not revolve around talking to random people, i'm comfortable doing that, it's when it comes down to talking to women that I want to hit on, I stumble. Maybe you're right I might be putting too much meaning into it, I just don't know where to start. I've read the Bible which gave me some confidence but I don't know how to get rid of AA when I want to initiate.

 

[yuppaz]

The way to do it is to get more comfortable, so comfortable in fact that it becomes no big deal to talk to beautiful women. The way to get there is through practice of having low-key conversations with women you want, just for the sake of conversation. Then when you are ok with that, do the same thing but show her that you have romantic interest in her (maybe something small like a compliment (light hearted, nothing intense). Maybe that goes nowhere at first but you get more comfortable with that over time and experience, then you do the same and you tell her you want to get together with her (after time) baby steps are very good for extreme AA. You are training your brain that it is no big deal (which it isn't)

 

[thechosenone2190]

you are afraid to fail. stop being afraid of failure. embrace failure and learn from it if it so happens. don't seek failure, but don't be afraid of it either. learn from it. go for it. credit goes to pook