"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFK's Month Long Test of Will

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Hey I started something similair to yours. I started a month ago and im stilll on it

Mine goes- no masturbation(I havent had a wet drem yet)
no tv- i only watched the superbowl(Im a patriot fan)
Do all my homework every night
Get 7+ hours of sleep every night
No gaming(because of no tv)
Workout 2 times a week

My friends all think im crazy but im still on this strong and i now have soo much time to to do everything i want.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Today was friggin awesome. Sure, I swore a few times, but this was nearly perfect in every other sense. Looking forward to my first complete day tomorrow on the 15th. :)

DAY 5: February 15, 2005

**FAILED**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1). (some chick offered to flash me no joke. I couldn't resist. But alas I turned her down because my lunch is worth more than tits...plus the other guys would get a free show)
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale). (parents got some lemonade...my weakness. At least it was light 50 cal 10 g sugar Lemonade)
- Follow Daily Workout Routine. (I got some adjustable dumbbells the other day. Now I can see some improvments. + protein shake = I am actually gaining now fat mass. RIght now I'm tryin to keep my muscle and cut. Then I will hard bulk)
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Back, biceps
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday.
- Do all homework first before turning on the computer. (yo bros. This is key. Once I turned on the comp it went downhill, but I all I had was some music and I was straight...blazed through my work like a fugga)
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls. (Crap. I go on for a fuggin minute and chicks start IMing me. I knew I was a chick magnet, but DAMN! over the internet too!?)
- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10.

EDIT: aight it looks like I failed,but I am doing super good with school work and that is my main goal. Everything can go to hell for all I care, but I figured, hey why change 1 thing when you can change everythgin? I'm so happy about my non-procrastination anymore. It feels awesome and I can laugh at lazy punks who're stressin for tests the night before and I'm acing it with a good night's sleep cuz I studied over the weekend. I r t3h w1nnAR!!!
 
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good luck AFK, just hang in there. I'm on day 3 of my own test. So far so good. I really exercised today. Did 2 miles of jogging, 45 minutes of elliptical, some weight training, and a set of 50 situps and 40 pushups. Is that a good start? No games, no masturbation. And I feel great!:)
 

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Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
Because of the nature of boxing I would probably not masterbate an extra two days, beyond the schedule above. Soccer is a little different, your spacial reasoning and decision making are more important... less of the sport is "instinct" more is "thought" so you dont need to be a testosterone-peaked maniac.
I believe that when i fight sometimes i feel an extra edge that i think is peaking levels of testosterone. I can tell bc the feeling is very distinct to me from every other factor that might afect my boxing. In fact trainers make you not have sex or beat it off for at least a week before a formal fight.
 

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Originally posted by jetsfan
good luck AFK, just hang in there. I'm on day 3 of my own test. So far so good. I really exercised today. Did 2 miles of jogging, 45 minutes of elliptical, some weight training, and a set of 50 situps and 40 pushups. Is that a good start? No games, no masturbation. And I feel great!:)
Dude that is great! Hey you might want to check up in the Health and Fitness forum so they can help you with a routine and all, but great start and good luck to you too. :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DAY 6: February 16, 2005

**COMPLETE**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1).
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale).
- Follow Daily Workout Routine.
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Abs
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday.
- Do all homework first before turning on the computer.
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls.
- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10.
 
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If I masturbate, have an orgasm (I think, after a year aniversary, I can't really feel an orgasm anymore), but prevent my **** from ejaculate, does it make the same as masturbating?
 

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well my own day went ok today. I've ate pretty healthy today, and today was my exercise off day. I still did a little weights, and my usual set of situps and stuff, but overall today was relaxed. I'm sore all over...but I feel great, and I can already see the improvement coming! So, how did day 16 go, AFK?
 

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Ok I was really busy with school for the past day and didn't have time to update, but I was so busy I couldn't do anything bad on my list, so finall.y...I completed a day. Today didn't go so well.

DAY 7: February 17, 2005

**FAILED**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1). (ok wtf I could do 45 days why is it hard now. no pun intended)
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale).
- Follow Daily Workout Routine. (I'm gaining non-fat mass for once, or at least maintaining my old muscle, which is good)
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Abs
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday. (4 hours booo)
- Do all homework first before turning on the computer. (no hw so I played CS. Shoulda went ahead in my school work)
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls.
- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10. (close call here. I find that I'm not talking about stupid things as much as before and can hold better happier conversations with people, because when I wanna swear I just turn the convo around to something positive where swearing isn't necessary)
 

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Originally posted by Bling
If I masturbate, have an orgasm (I think, after a year aniversary, I can't really feel an orgasm anymore), but prevent my **** from ejaculate, does it make the same as masturbating?
Good question, dont know. The logical answer would be that since nothing is going out, then is like if you didnt beat off. But the orgasm happens in your brain, so i dont know what the brain would say about that, while still have the semen.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have come to find that DDR is your friend. Yesterday I burned 667 calories playing in workout mode, and today I burned 726. I'm losing some noticeable weight now, and I feel better already. I look better, so improved points there. I encourage all of you if you have the money to get DDR and a nice $50 pad (one that will last you and doesn't slide around), and start with this game. It takes a while to learn, but it's fun (really) and burns fat like nobody's business. Also, my endurance is greatly increased thanks to it. Anybody else in this topic playing it for part or all of their workout?
 

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DDR...?
 

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How did you quit masturbating for that long, AFK? The longest I've ever quit masturbating was 5 days (which was from last Friday to Tuesday). Maybe it's the stress of school? Maybe it's because I'm emotional drained? I've always done well when I was active, but when I'm bored, "Tony" starts to become worked. I can't play video games either, because I don't know how to turn off NCAA 2005 vibrator. That vibrator has my **** wanting some bad.

They say you should replace it with something, what did you replace it with?

How did you do it? During the summer or something?
 

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DAY 8: February 18, 2005

**FAILED**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1).
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale).
- Follow Daily Workout Routine.
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Abs
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday.
- Do all homework first before turning on the computer.
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls.
- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DAY 9: February 19, 2005

**FAILED**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1).
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale).
- Follow Daily Workout Routine.
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Abs
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday.
- Do all homework first before turning on the computer.
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls.
- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10.
 

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have you lost all motivation?

CMON B.ITCH!!!!! STOP ****ING UP!! I'm a great motivational speaker btw
 

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To think I admired you for going that long without masturbating......



Man, I could do some of those things easy.


**FAILED**
- No masturbation/porn (Day 1).
- No junk food at all for a month (exception = diet ginger ale).
- Follow Daily Workout Routine.
--> Elliptical, 15 min. (HIIT)
--> Abs
- Get at least six hours of sleep everyday.

- Do all homework first before turning on the computer.
- No AIM chatting: Replace with phone calls.

- No forum/xanga browsing except to update this: Replace with reading a magazine or book.
- No video/computer games: Replace with guitar practice or workout.
- No swearing: Replace with a slow count to 10.



GREEN = I can do easy
RED = I can't.



Now masturbation is hard. Doing homework is hard, but not enough sleep? Jeez. I go to sleep at the latest 12:00. Why do you put yourself through the misery? Your body needs it. Swearing? Guess what, it does nothing for you. You don't need it. Video games? I can see problems there.
 

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I bet I can go longer than you without masturbating (and that's my only true weakness). I actually gurantee it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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