TinyFzzyKiwi
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Not sure what you mean mate, care to elaborate?Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
Guys ask yourself this question......
Do I FEEL this way....?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Not sure what you mean mate, care to elaborate?Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
Guys ask yourself this question......
Do I FEEL this way....?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nah, not ignorance . . . just non-googled-ness.Originally posted by Zaine
AFK, sorry for my ignorance but...What is Elliptical?
Insidious....is your middle name Truth? I mean, I'm sure we all think that way, but you've got it here so eloquently. Thanks for the clearing up and comments. I was sitting down today and felt for my flab (@ 12% bf, going for 10%) and I was like, "man, I need to go workout. I don't care if people are over or if it is late. It's for the better."Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
What I mean is that you can set goals all you want but you'll usually fail. You honestly have to believe that you must change. It seems as though they see it as like a chore. Don't look at it from that point of view. Look at it as your improving your life for the better. Basically you have to change your mindset.
Link pain to the things you want to quit. Get it inside of your head that if you keep doing these things your killing yourself. And vice versa for the things you hate doing (such as homework) Link homework to good things. Think positive about it. "Hey I'm doing my homework and I know that somehow this is going to help me in my future in some way."
They have so MANY different things. I like the way they broke them down and got specific but when you break so many things down then you worry "am I doing this, am I doing that."
It's really good that their taking this step though don't get me wrong. A lot of people won't even try. "They just say I should do this and I should do that and they just should all over themselves." (Anthony Robbins)
Just get the right mindset of "hey I'm going to do this not because I see it as a challenge but because I love myself and I see the bigger picture. And the bigger picture is this is going to improve all aspects of my life for the better."
Most of this stuff I remember hearing from tapes of Anthony Robbin's so I'll guive credit where credit is due. If you can find some of his material I think it would be very helpful.
Keep it up gentleman.....
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You should try it and see how you feel. I'm doing the same thing as him, it's amazing how good you feel. You have nothing to worry about, because you've been doing everything on time, etc. And if you think masturbating is all important, well, I suggest you get a new point of view or join us in our pacts of will.Originally posted by souporman
This is ridiculous, what a waste of your time and energy. You're basically just turning this month into the crappiest month of your life.
Listen here souporman. The only thing I feel "crappy" about is not completing all of my tasks. But I can turn that crappy feeling into motivation. Now like Kiwi said, try it out. If you don't like it and still think it is worthless, then I guess that is what you are like. Whatever floats your boat man.Originally posted by souporman
This is ridiculous, what a waste of your time and energy. You're basically just turning this month into the crappiest month of your life.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
you failed, you just talked to me the other night !Originally posted by AFK Protector
>>> Hopefully, after 1 month, this routine will become a habit and I will be have great study, eating, sleeping, and overall living habits. Good luck to all. This is my log.
>>> AFK's Test of Will begins Thursday - 1.27.05.
uh...yeah read the post above yours.Originally posted by BLUEox117
you failed, you just talked to me the other night !
i know but think of it as doing it for the good of the peopleOriginally posted by AFK Protector
uh...yeah read the post above yours.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.