"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
affirmatiONs!!!
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Therefore, more convincing to one.
"I am secure and self confident."
Or you can make it into a question:
"Damnit, why am I so amazingly confident and secure?! This is awesome!"
using EFT may also help in making a stronger impact in one's affirmations
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
The best way to use EFT is to remove what they call "tailenders".Interceptor said:
get in a quiet place where you can listen to your thoughts.
say your affirmation (present tense, first person, positive verbs only).
then listen to whatever things you say to yourself. for example:
"I am a natural born seducer of beautiful women".
if you listen carefully, you'll hear (in your mind) statements like:
"no your not"
"you suck with girls"
"you haven't been laid since last.."
then you use EFT to remove those "tailenders"
keep at it, until when you say your affirmation, all you hear is silence.
which means your subconcious accepts it.
then go out and find evidence that your affirmation is true.
as you seek, so shall you find.
examples;
you radicate a natural easy self acceptance that women find irrestibly attractive
or
i radicate a natural easy self acceptance that women find irrestibly attractive
i really wanna know which works better.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It doesn't make the other person defensive!
"You always do this to me!"
"I hate it when you do this to me."
"You're a jackass!"
"You know I don't like when you act like this at all."
It seems much more calmer.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
just play around with which voice "feels" better when you say it.
when I actually say them myself, I use "I". when I record them to play in the backgroundm, I use "you".
I've read some places where you need to "trick" yourself into believing them.
e.g. instead of saying "you are good with women" it is better to say
"it is fantastic that you are good with women"
others say to ask the question:
"why am I so good with women" the idea being that when you ask your mind a question, it will not argue with the embedded statement (I am so good with women) rather, it will find an answer.
here is a decent article on the subject:
http://realitymethod.com/2008/01/using-self-talk-to-improve-your-game/