affirmatiONs!!!

[collalife]

how do you do affirmations the most effectively? are they recited with the directing word with "you can",or"you believe" or is it "I can" and "I believe", "I am" etc.

 

[Interceptor]

I think using the first person is the most believable.
Therefore, more convincing to one.

"I am secure and self confident."

Or you can make it into a question:
"Damnit, why am I so amazingly confident and secure?! This is awesome!"

using EFT may also help in making a stronger impact in one's affirmations

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

using EFT may also help in making a stronger impact in one's affirmations

The best way to use EFT is to remove what they call "tailenders".

get in a quiet place where you can listen to your thoughts.

say your affirmation (present tense, first person, positive verbs only).

then listen to whatever things you say to yourself. for example:

"I am a natural born seducer of beautiful women".

if you listen carefully, you'll hear (in your mind) statements like:

"no your not"
"you suck with girls"
"you haven't been laid since last.."

then you use EFT to remove those "tailenders"

keep at it, until when you say your affirmation, all you hear is silence.
which means your subconcious accepts it.

then go out and find evidence that your affirmation is true.

as you seek, so shall you find.

 

[collalife]

but for example unstoppable confidence gives affirmations in third person. SHould they be used in first or third.
examples;
you radicate a natural easy self acceptance that women find irrestibly attractive
or
i radicate a natural easy self acceptance that women find irrestibly attractive

i really wanna know which works better.

 

[everywomanshero]

I've seen some studies (last one out of Berkely made mainstream media, so you can look it up easily) that show affirmations do have a postive effect and is longer lasting that one might suspect. As far as the most effective technique, I'm not aware of any such proof.

 

[Groovy]

For arguements use I!

It doesn't make the other person defensive!

"You always do this to me!"

"I hate it when you do this to me."

"You're a jackass!"

"You know I don't like when you act like this at all."

It seems much more calmer.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

first second or third?

just play around with which voice "feels" better when you say it.

when I actually say them myself, I use "I". when I record them to play in the backgroundm, I use "you".

I've read some places where you need to "trick" yourself into believing them.

e.g. instead of saying "you are good with women" it is better to say
"it is fantastic that you are good with women"

others say to ask the question:

"why am I so good with women" the idea being that when you ask your mind a question, it will not argue with the embedded statement (I am so good with women) rather, it will find an answer.


here is a decent article on the subject:
http://realitymethod.com/2008/01/using-self-talk-to-improve-your-game/