"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Affirmations are important

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One HUGE important success factor that I found to be true in all successful people. That is including successful teachers from the seduction community. I found that they all had ONE thing in common.

They always affirmed their beliefs in one way or another.

Affirmations are the one most important tool that can change your entire life. Don't believe me? Check back to your posts where you was having a problem and look at the stuff you was writing. "I can't approach." "I fear rejection" "I cant move on" "All girls are cold to me" and so on.

Whatever you focus on and whatever your getting in life - Is always a match

The truth is, even the seduction community is conditioned with a whole ray of limiting beliefs. Because when you start to over think and analyze what should be so natural and free flowing, you take away your freedom.

Yes, Freedom. You have freedom to do ANYTHING you want. There are no walls built around you, only the mental blocks that you build around yourself.

To live in a state of freedom is pure bliss. We all experience peeks of freedom sometimes in our life. It's when we truly change.

I experienced freedom after experiencing huge ammounts of pain. I woke up from all this pain and realized that I was truly free to change anything. Everything was in my grasp. I realized that no matter how much pain i go through in life, it can never take away my freedom to do anything.

You are the only person who can take away your freedom.

So why are affirmations important? Because your mind is always being programmed. Either by society, trends, friends, role models etc. But when you take control of your own programming, you are in total control of your life, you feel the state of freedom. Which was always there to begin with but hidden on the surface. You can never lose freedom. Even in the great moments of human struggle can we find our freedom that pushes us to greatness.

You can see this evident on this forum. You have people with limiting beliefs that opinionate on other people's lives and analyze the hell out of people's posts. They are limited because they have not truly tasted freedom of success, they are closer then any average joe but they are still not there.

And this is evident on that output of energy that people make. Check for yourself, look at the posts that are negative and close minded, they are just not there yet. Check out the value of posts, i.e Pook. These are full of value and positivity because these guys get it.

You will also notice that if you look closely you will be able to see these limiting beliefs. "You cant do this." really means "I cant do this"

This is something that the successful people dont do. They dont focus on the problems, they focus on the solutions. They don't surround themselves with other peoples problems and get more bitter. They surround themselves with winners.

Think about that one.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alle_Gory

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I find that you have to pick the right affirmations. They have to include a certain level of truth. It can't just be something that blatantly goes against what your mind is used to.

For example:

I like cake. I am good, and comfortable at kino. I like running.


That was for contrast. You should sneak in the statement that you want to become true, by pretending its true like the rest of it.

Works all the time in conversations with people. Sneak in a plausible lie with the truth. They just assume everything you say is true.
 
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