Affection in public and slut-defense!?

[Babnik]

We know some chicks hate slut reputation. So, you are at a party...do you take a girl to an isolated place just to kiss her and kino or do you do it right there in the midst of people?

I usually see people do it in the open (making out, touching sexually) but screwing privately.

So, how do you know if you need to isolate her for a kiss or not? If everyone around sees you kissing her and grabbing her ass - everyone will think she is a sl*t! Yet, isn't that what girls do NOT want?

 

[Snow Plowman]

The thing is that what you generally see that is normal its basically AFC reality type of thing. To better explain it picture...

A guy who is all quiet kissing and cuddling in public is most likely bf and girlfriend because if its a guy sarging her he is most likely getting her laughing and having fun while a guy who is her bf is just boring her and cuddling or something along those lines. Now they can kiss in public because socially conditioning. (He is her bf so its acceptable)

Now usually your seeing people makeout in clubs and thats because the girls in state at clubs and there BT is going up. Once there BT goes up there social conditioning is going away. That is why you see party girls acting sexy in clubs.

Now coming from a PUA/DJ reality you don't really need to isolate you just need BT to go real high. If you wanted to fuvk a girl the same day you'd just attract through the roof, but if you were to do that and call her the next day she will most likely flake because she backwards rationalized what happened. Its also the context that your ass slapping and kissing is coming from. If its from a horny frame then it can trigger ASD but if its coming from a sexual frame then it will be different.

Overall if you keep pumping BT she will get emotional and depending on how much you keep attracting her will cause her social conditioning to be turned off and then all of that stuff can happen. (This is why you hear FRs where people got jerked on the dancefloor, or fuvked in a public place, etc.)

This is why people who learn this have a great advantage becaue they attract quick and end up sleeping with the girl quick. You can case a girl as quick as you want too so longs you pump that BT and convey all the right things. That is why you'll notice kissing is considered early kino because it really doesn't take that long.

 

[Babnik]

Ah...no. It was not her BF. It was a guy she just met. He talked to her a bit, then started rubbing her thighs and legs and then making out in front of everyone.

I'm not scared of making out in front of everyone, but if a girl doesn't want to be thought of as a slut - would she let something like that happen in public in the middle of a party? I saw that quite a few times...


I don't speak DJ language....BT? ASD?

 

[Babnik]

???

 

[jophil28]

What does AFC stand for ?

 

[PRMoon]

There's a difference between PDA and drunken hook ups with people watching. One of the girls i'm seeing is big on PDA because she really likes me and isn't shy about that fact. We don't grope each other or start stripping clothes, but she will let me touch her a$$ while we're walking and through her arms around me/ kiss me when we're paying for a meal at the check out counter in restarunts and bars. She's just showing signs of affection and that she's happy to be with me.

Conversely, I've gotten drunk in clubs and had girls nearly jack me off while on a crowded dance floor because they were hot for it and wanted to make it as clear as possible that they wanted to get physical as soon as possible. I don't really approve of this but usually when this is happening I'm pretty drunk and don't have my wits about me.

Girls may or may not be shy about showing that they are physical beings to their partner of the moment and to be honest, alcohol can play a big part in this. Girls who don't want to be viewed as a sl*t but know how they are after they've had drinks simply won't drink. Some of them are sl*ts and don't it use drunkeness as a crutch thinking that will get them through even though people know better. Girls who are content with the person they're with and don't give a f*ck what anybody else thinks because they're with a stud and are happy obviously won't care.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Notice I was speaking in general I wasn't saying specifically that your situation was a bf/gf type of thing. If you are attracting a girl then her logical mind is going away and her more emotional side comes out. This is like the main reason why when you do all this stuff you lay girls quickly.

Basically its social conditioning that causes the girl not to want to kiss or maybe go on a bus with you. But as you attract her more and more it won't matter. Usually people only see people making out who aren't bf/gf in clubs because girls are already in state and having fun. Isolation isn't really needed for kissing if you've been attracting her alot.

If you ever wanted to try and pull a girl the same night all you'd have to do is just do attraction through the roof. The hardest part in a same night pull is logistics. Also you if you ever want to kiss a girl real quick just do "triangular gazing" this is the best way and most natural way to kiss. I get kisses fairly quickly by doing this. I've also seen guys kiss close within a min by triangular gazing.