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Don Juan
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I remember thumbing through a book at a bookstore years ago, I think it was called "How to succeed with women" or something similar. I don't remember the exact name but I've seen it recommended on this site or on sosuave.com. Anyway, I remember reading some things that really struck a chord with me, that had to do with AFC's even though they didn't use that terminology.
The main thing was it talked about when guys say "I shouldn't have to do ____ to get a woman, she should take me just as I am." If I remember right there were several instances where they talked about this attitude. "I shouldn't have to change how I dress, I shouldn't have to get in shape etc." The authors used the argument that you dress up for a job interview, you don't just go into the interview dressed however you want and expect them to hire you.
But I remember the authors saying that attitudes like the ones I listed, and not being willing to change those attitudes, show that these guys would rather be "right" (at least in their own minds) than be happy (get what they claim to want - success with women). And choosing being "right" over being happy they say, shows these guys' immaturity.
Years later this still describes me, and I'm sure it comes in my case at least, mainly from not being exposed to different viewpoints, different ways of looking at life, because I isolate myself so much socially. And I don't mean just being exposed to different viewpoints in books.
But my main question is: those who have been around this site a lot longer than I have, or have been living the DJ way a while, have you seen a lot of this "rather be right than happy" attitude? Either in yourself (past or present) or in other AFC's?
The main thing was it talked about when guys say "I shouldn't have to do ____ to get a woman, she should take me just as I am." If I remember right there were several instances where they talked about this attitude. "I shouldn't have to change how I dress, I shouldn't have to get in shape etc." The authors used the argument that you dress up for a job interview, you don't just go into the interview dressed however you want and expect them to hire you.
But I remember the authors saying that attitudes like the ones I listed, and not being willing to change those attitudes, show that these guys would rather be "right" (at least in their own minds) than be happy (get what they claim to want - success with women). And choosing being "right" over being happy they say, shows these guys' immaturity.
Years later this still describes me, and I'm sure it comes in my case at least, mainly from not being exposed to different viewpoints, different ways of looking at life, because I isolate myself so much socially. And I don't mean just being exposed to different viewpoints in books.
But my main question is: those who have been around this site a lot longer than I have, or have been living the DJ way a while, have you seen a lot of this "rather be right than happy" attitude? Either in yourself (past or present) or in other AFC's?