"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFCed my way into LJBF

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Hey guys... Just NEXTed this girl a week ago but u know how these things are... She's still on my mind so thought I'd post to release some anger.

This girl had a huge crush on me for a long time... She asked for my number, remembered it, asked me on a date, constantly asked to meet, stared at me endlessly. Well... I just added her on msn and talked to her about sex (she's a virgin) and teased her, while totally ignoring her in person. Forwards 16 months and this is still going on... She's still trying to get me lol.

But I was rly lonely having left university and lost most of my other girls so thought I'd give it a shot. So I just told her.I liked her and she said she felt the same... So we went out and made out for like 4 hours or so. I guess I became more AFC after that and think I said 'I rly like u' on messenger at some point... Anyway, we went out again and made out for 3 hours. I'd told her to masturbate about a dark alley... When I got outside her house we made out and she was like 'pity its not a dark alley'... I was like 'let's find one'... Rofl so we went and found an alley and I felt her breasts... She grabbed my **** etc. Before lmr but no actual sex. Then she gave me 20 pounds to get a taxi home lolol.

2 days later she says she's traumatised and wants to 'slow down' and recommends going out casually maybe. I take this to mean ljbf... Get pissed off and just tell her no contact for a while because she's being disrespectful. She adds me a few days later but I tell her its just not possible and she then removes me. I haven't done anything since (was like a week ago) and am currently in 'no talk, no msn, no texts, no bbm' mode.

This is a permanent ljbf right? But in this sort of case once ur rly over the girl might it be worth being friends? I spoke to her for like 150 hours before making out... Including telling her about a terrible depression I was going through. Alternatively, can I reverse this after say 6 months? What u guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sh!t test. You failed.

Ignore her. She may come around again, maybe not. Stop losing sleep over it. Take it as a lesson.
 

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What do I do if she re adds me?

I am getting over this quite fast, it is mostly ego for being so AFC. After my first and only real ljbf I swore I'd never let it happen again but here we are... I will learn from this one too.

If I still have a shot her I want to do it. But I want to honestly not give a **** when I try... If she re adds me before that point, do I allow her but just keep my distance till she's dead to me?
 

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You failed the sh*t test and you admitted you like her? Oh, you should be slapped clean across your face!

Take this as a lesson. Never admit you like a girl. Remain a mystery. You got mushy and tried to handcuff the girl. Now she wants to be released.

You are not enjoying your stay in Friendzone Beach, South Carolina, are you?
 

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Lolol epic **** up! So I never talk to her again? What if she actually does come back?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Man, what did I say about putting an end to all of this too much analyzing bullsh*t.

One of my ex was a virgin, I took her back home, sucked on her t i t s for the first time and she almost cried. She told me she wanted to slow things down. Fast forward, 2, 3 months later I was eating her p u s s y and she loved it. She told me no sex until marriage, she hit the age of 17 and I was hitting it.

She was my girl for 4 years. I told her I liked her 2 weeks of meeting her. I asked her if she loved me which would seem to be the most AFC thing in the world, and she said she did. We say I love you to each other every day. Sh*t fell apart when I moved to another state and I ended up cheating on her because I was the most stupid guy in the world that day. I swear she was a keeper.

But yeah I don't know what to tell you man. It's up to you man, but I'm convinced. Those who's telling you it was a sh*t test or whatever, never gotten laid period.
 

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So what do I do if she does come back. The fact she knew me for so long means she probably will even just for real 'friendship' ... Just joke for a few days and ask to meet? Or just refuse her invite?
 

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@bam

you failed when you got pissed off and TOLD her "No contact because you are being disrespectful". You never tell your feelings, you demonstrate them; you don't tell a girl you are funny, do you? You just ARE funny.

In retrospect you should have just gone no contact. By blowing up you showed what a temperamental little boy you are, that's attractive lol

She wanted to slow down.. she did not necesarily friend you, I can't believe you didn't see this! She asks to slow down then you do just that, slow down the contact, you have better things to be doing. Suddenly she asks if you want to hang out, "Oh, sorry", you say, "I am going to be busy that day"

This is basic knowledge amongst this community. By letting on that she has control over your emotions by being a child you almost switched off her attraction. Like I said, she didn't necesarily friend zone you unless she said, "Lets just be friends".

Does anybody read the DJ Bible when they come here?
 

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What I really want to know is what I should do if she comes back. I imagine it is game over now... Right? This girl isn't worth trying any tricks to get out of ljbf, if I'm there ill accept it. Unless I randomly run into her or whatever.
 
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