"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AFC when jealous - Was gonna have a THREESOME, but *****ES chose each other!!!!

skip2mylou781

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ok WOW here goes:


girl 1 - ex gf who i known for 4 years now, ****ed her probly 50 times, we been broken up for 3 years now but still chill and hook up from time to time

girl 2 - total slut who ive ****ed before like 5 times, also on good terms with her

BOTH ARE BISEXUAL

so my friend was having a bday party and i decided to introduce the 2 girls to each other and take them there cuz we had talks about having a 3some (which woulda been my first 3some ever)

I basically picked both girls up, drove about 1 hour total between my house, their houses, and the bday party itself..........at first, i was ****y cool funny everythin cuz i was cuddlin with both girls and thinsg were goin well into the 3some direction into the near future


all of a sudden, after about an hour, i started getting DISSED by these *****es (keep in mind i ****ed both of them b4) cuz they would start cuddling together and totally ignore me and reject me when i tried to join....then they started sayin how they want each other cuz "girls do it better" (WTF)

at that point, i thought of sosuave and realized i was givin them attention, so I just pulled away and ignored the shyt out of them, went to do other things at the party - well, that left them alone and basically they started goin at it, makign out ect ect being all over each other.

They yelled my name and got me to come over onto the balcony with them (just us 3) and i thought GREAT, IGNORING THEM WORKED........but when i got to the balcony, they were on each other's laps adn i told 1 of them to come over to me, adn she said "im enjoying XXXXX over here, ill put my feet on u cuz i kno u like feet (WTFFFFFFFFFFFFF) - so i left again, pissed at this point cuz instead of a 3some this was becoming a dyke-fest!!!!

then of course it was time to go home, and THEY BOTH SAT IN THE BACK SEAT as if i was some ****in chouffeur for the dyke and i became silent, distant, w/e (they knew i was pissed) yet they still were asking "whats wrong" to which id say "nothin, dont worry about it"

then the KILLER - 1 of them said "hey can u take us to Water Country next weekend? (its an amusement park)" and that line told me the following:

they wanna use me for a ride and be all lesbo on me again

i said NAHH and didnt talk to either of them - night ended with me basically BURNING BOTH BRIDGES and telling them both off seperately cuz i just couldnt hold it off and they both were like ****in lover dykes blaming ME for actin like a child for callin them out on USING ME and IGNORING ME which they did.

****in bull****!!!! DID I DO THE RIGHT THING HERE?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Honestly? It sounds like you threw a hissie fit.

Patience is a virtue….and patience can open opportunities for the future. If a guy is seriously interested in a 3-some, then why not cultivate the situation and let it develop to your advantage? You could have potentially had an on going relationship with these two other women - a scenario that many men dream of….but while the girls were getting acquainted, you got jealous and self-centred and wanted instant benefits.

Three-somes are not for everyone….but sexual and emotional maturity may be more of the issue here (and fair enough - such scenarios can be complicated)….and perhaps you should stay out of them until you feel composed and ready.
 

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our ages - me 21, and them 21 and 18, they are pretty immature and sexual (both are basically sluts who love sex) so i felt instant gratification was wat was SUPPOSED to happen
 

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i felt instant gratification was wat was SUPPOSED to happen


Okay. Still, I think being patient – rather than frustrated - is a good idea considering that we can’t really control people and what they do.

They’ve both had a past with you, and maybe they chose you as someone they both felt comfortable with, for trying out something new.

I can understand how it was an uncomfortable situation for you…especially coming into it with pre-set expectations. Expectations can lead to ruin….

Is it possible to just go with the flow, and see what happens from there? If not, then tell them to f off, I guess. Do what’s right for you.
 
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