"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AFC to leave an out?

Nethel

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So I asked a girl from one of my classes right after our exam, and got the "we'll talk" response. I had told her Friday, but it came and went. No big deal... I've got other things to do. The plot thickens when my sister and I go to rent a movie that night (it just so happens one of my sister's friend's older sister is best friends with the girl - got all that?) and she mentions the girl saying something about needing to call me.

Now, I've known her for more than 3 years, and she can be a ***** sometimes, but this doesn't seem like her. The way I see it, I've got two options: one, call her up and say, "When someone says we'll talk, that implies some sort of communication" and go from there, basically being an ass about her not calling; or, two, I can say something like "busy Memorial weekend?" and be kind and leave her an out to make excuses.

In all, I'm not overly worried about dating her, it would be nice though. I'm more interested in what broke down between us. Any suggestions?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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j8snx1

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well if her best friend was told by the girl you're into that she "needs to call you" then let HER call. meanwhile, catch up on life and go do some fun stuff and maybe you can talk about it over the phone.
 

LikRetsam

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Quit acting like a little b1tch.
 
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