AFC on a friend?

[flexion_]

I recently had a death that shook me up for a few days. I'm back to my normal self now but was trying to understand this one female reponse I had...

I have a couple of well networked female friends that I use as springboards to meet other women. One of them called me up to see how I was doing. She said I was acting insecure and it bothered her.

My question is why would someone who is just a friend be bothered by me being insecure? Is there some IL going on here?

 

[Ares]

I doubt it

I have the same girl-friend system that you use, and three of these I really see as real friends. I had a similar experience six months ago and started acting what they saw as "weird" around them for a couple of days, insecure, called one of them in the midle of the night and asked her to confirm that I wasnt going to lose her to. So I if she isnt a good friend that you meet often then there might be something, but offcourse if you see her reguarly and consider her a good friend then its just her showing her concern.......

 

[flexion_]

I don't see her that often. We have been around together in groups but really haven't talked that much for the last few months.

I figure if I'm going to be a slip into AFCism once in awhile then I might as well use it up on some friend and not some dating prospect... LOL

 

[sAxyguy83]

Whether it's romantic interest or just friendship I couldn't tell you w/o knowing the ppl involved, but she obviously cares for you in some fashion. Either she's a potential girlfriend, or she's got the potential to be a very good friend. Either way, tho, ppl that care enough to check if you're all right are good to have around, cuz you know you can trust them.

 

[Starman]

When I got layed off. I was depressed and somewhat clingy with friends..and one female friend said "you are acting strange" and wouldnt tell me..

I took it as I was acting too clingy and dependant and whiny