"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJDamage

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http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20051114/ap_on_re_us/parents_slain_abduction

LITITZ, Pa. - A 14-year-old girl was missing after her parents were shot to death in their home Sunday morning, and authorities issued an arrest warrant for an 18-year-old believed to be her boyfriend.

Michael and Cathryn Borden, both 50, were killed shortly after 8 a.m. in their home in Warwick Township, about 60 miles west of Philadelphia.

The couple's 9-year-old son, David, the youngest of five children, had fled to the home of neighbors, who called 911, said Lititz Police Chief William Seace. An older daughter still living at home and two adult sons were also safe, he said, but Kara Beth Borden, 14, was gone.

"We don't know whether she has been abducted or is willingly a part of this," Seace said, but he said until police can determine otherwise, they are operating on the assumption Kara was kidnapped.

Authorities Sunday night issued an arrest warrant for David G. Ludwig, 18, on two counts of criminal homicide, one count of recklessly endangering and one count of kidnapping.

Seace said information from the other children indicated Ludwig shot both victims, and he reportedly abducted Kara at gunpoint.

"We think they're boyfriend and girlfriend," Seace said. "The young girl was out during the night, came home, and her parents confronted her. From what we understand, he came to the house."

Stephanie Mannon, a 16-year-old friend who had worked with Ludwig, said he and Kara had been seeing each other secretly.

"Their parents didn't approve of them being together" because of the age difference, she said. "It wasn't because he was a shady character, because he wasn't."

The Borden family had lived on the quiet street of two-story homes for several years, said neighbor Tod Sherman, 47. Mike Borden worked for a printing company, and the children were home-schooled, he said.

Sherman said the family knew Ludwig through a home-schooling network and he had occasionally seen the teen at their home.

Sunday morning, neighbors woke to the sound of an ambulance and a phone call from Lancaster County emergency management officials warning them to stay inside.

Neighbor John Hohman, 40, said he looked out a window after getting the call and saw police running through the neighborhood. About an hour and a half later, he said, authorities told residents to go to their basements and wait until further notice.

"We were really upset. We didn't know what was going on," Hohman said.

Hohman described Kara, who sometimes baby-sat for his family, as "a very nice girl."

Sherman described her father as "very smart and focused, a nice guy."

"They were super people," he said.
I can't believe how dumb he is. Not only was she to young for him but he had to kill the parents????!!! the guy is a psycho.

Just ruined the rest of his life and for what??!!

DjDamage
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lost In Translation

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DJDamage empty your PM box please :)


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**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

" stop being insecure " i hate that saying. it's a cop out for not having enough balls to confront a woman about what she is doing THAT IS WRONG or potentially damaging to a long term relationship. – Lost In Translation
 

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AFCs can become murderers. It really happens. A few years ago, a young german guy kidnapped the son of rich parents. He "needed" money for his 16-year old GF. She demanded that he buys her every expensive **** you can imagine, even cars and stuff. Why? All of her spoiled friends had boyfriends who did this!!
So he abducts the boy, hides him in a lonely cottage and demands ransom money. Sadly, he wasn't clever enough to really plan the whole thing. When the boy started crying and did not stop the kidnapper put tape on his mouth and nose until he suffocated.
A dead boy and a young man spending live in prison (not that he wouldn't deserve it. I hope he gets it in the ass every day and twice on sundays). Two ruined families. All because of one spoiled chick and top AFC behavier!!!
 

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Btw, this guy wasn't even poor himself. He came from a rather rich family. But he did not have the money to give his girlfriend all the things she (and he) thought she would deserve. He was 27, the chick 16 ^^ Crazy society.
 
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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by ThreeStorms
AFCs can become murderers. It really happens. A few years ago, a young german guy kidnapped the son of rich parents. He "needed" money for his 16-year old GF. She demanded that he buys her every expensive **** you can imagine, even cars and stuff. Why? All of her spoiled friends had boyfriends who did this!!
So he abducts the boy, hides him in a lonely cottage and demands ransom money.
I can't believe that! I can only hope they sterilize him so he can never reproduce.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Morphiex

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man waay too much of this **** happenin now a days....
I really hate those kind of people who date girls way under 15 when theyr 18 + , thats just wrong , evfen if the chick says she is in love and **** , cuz she cnt be cuz all that she is feeling is some stupid puppylove wich they get soo very confused about.....

i think rapists and such should all get hteyr **** cut off or atleeast sterilazed so that it wont rise again... deffenetly those sick pedofiles, they should get theyr ****s burnt off , i dont care about some stupid human rights bull , why should we when they are willing to mess up the lives of so many people.....
 

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Well, she shouldn't have been dating an adult and he shouldn't have been dating a kid...
 

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Originally posted by ThreeStorms
AFCs can become murderers. It really happens. A few years ago, a young german guy kidnapped the son of rich parents. He "needed" money for his 16-year old GF. She demanded that he buys her every expensive **** you can imagine, even cars and stuff. Why? All of her spoiled friends had boyfriends who did this!!
So he abducts the boy, hides him in a lonely cottage and demands ransom money. Sadly, he wasn't clever enough to really plan the whole thing. When the boy started crying and did not stop the kidnapper put tape on his mouth and nose until he suffocated.
A dead boy and a young man spending live in prison (not that he wouldn't deserve it. I hope he gets it in the ass every day and twice on sundays). Two ruined families. All because of one spoiled chick and top AFC behavier!!!
If only someone had introduced him to sosuave.com:(
 

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I just saw this crap on the news, and I came here because I just KNEW I wasn't the only one that saw this.

What is more amazing were the reporters, acting like AFCness is a new thing... saying stuff like "what would drive a man do such a thing" or "did the girl have something to do with it?"

pathetic... I hope he gets arrested and has to toss salads for the rest of his life.
 

DumpaLumpagus

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Originally posted by backbreaker
pathetic... I hope he gets arrested and has to toss salads for the rest of his life.
I hope its more like, Polish Sausage.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MuayThai

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Wtf!?

Us men are really messed in the head nowadays....****.

And..... she aint that pretty. :crackup:
 
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