AFC needs help

[uidroot]

Hello

This is my situation. I meet this girl who is in 5 year relationship and she is in my town for few months. I got close to her since we meet and talk everyday and also dance very close. She feels very close and attracted when we dance. Now I told her couple of days ago I want to have sex with her and also want a long term relationship. She said, she cannot decide since she is in a relationship for some time 5 years and at the moment she only sees me as a friend and for to get intimate it takes long time.She also mentioned she is uncomforable talking about sex with ONLY me. I was talking about sex before she said she is not disgusted but feels it could be a problem to our relationship, assuming friendship.

I really like personality and I told her I dont belive in friendship **** and either I become an acquaintance, but no friend bull****. My question is do I just drop the plate or what is my course of action.Just a note her personality is having a lot of guy friends.

I also talked about her bf she has him as a buffer. Please advice me what should I do

 

[Thorninmyside]

Hello
Now I told her couple of days ago I want to have sex with her

You should tell her this by sticking your schlong in her. Putting it into words makes it a discussion and even if she wanted it, her rational mind would shut it down. Best to just make your move in the heat of the moment if there's a next time.

and also want a long term relationship.

That's for her to push you for, and why would she go out for milk when she has the cow at home? Sex her first, relationship comes later if it does at all. Be the man in the relationship, not the second girl.

See other women ASAP. You'll see that attention deficit affect her, and you might want her a lot less too. It's healthier for you.

 

[uidroot]

What about "I fell uncomfortable talking about sex only with you"..She said she is okay talking all with her friends and blah...blah..I am wondering if she is looking me as a comfort or scared that she will be cheating on BF..

 

[uidroot]

please any one tell me what is that means

 

[Maximus Rex]

The Odds of Successfully Navigating the Friend Zone is 3,720 to 1

at the moment she only sees me as a friend and for to get intimate it takes long time

Listen, bruh. You're in the Friend Zone. Above the main gate of the Friend Zone there's a sign that reads, "Abandon All Hope for Ye Who Enters Here."

She also mentioned she is uncomforable talking about sex with ONLY me. I was talking about sex before she said she is not disgusted but feels it could be a problem to our relationship, assuming friendship.

Being that she she sees you as a friend, you doesn't want to send mixed messages or accidentally turn you on.

Just a note her personality is having a lot of guy friends.

She's an attention fiend, for you to try and involve yourself in this chick's life you would be joining her legion of followers.

My question is do I just drop the plate or what is my course of action.

She's not a "plate," because you haven't gotten a chance to get to know her carnally yet. Your course of action is to drop her or you can follow the advice in these Harry Wilimington's podcasts.

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/13/

Epsiode 14: Stop Telling Your Girl “Friend” You Like Her + How to Ask Her Out Without Having It Get Weird

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/12/

Episode 25: Stop Trying to Be Her Friend First

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/10/

Episode 51: Stop Losing Women Interview #2 – Turning a Friend Into a Lover (John)

 

[Dgwizdal]

Friendzoned. You have no chance.

 

[Mike32ct]

Use her as practice to improve your dancing skills and for social proof.

Then meet other chicks that are single.

 

[uidroot]

Sounds depressing.. I think I will just spend as little time as possible

 

[blind_one]

Sounds depressing.. I think I will just spend as little time as possible

Hey, don't get so down on yourself. Learn from your past experiences.

^What Mike said

 

[uidroot]

so how to keep her in acquaintance and not spend too much time..Can you please tell how to not cut her completely but keep in a way that is healthy for me.

 

[Maximus Rex]

What?

so how to keep her in acquaintance and not spend too much time..Can you please tell how to not cut her completely but keep in a way that is healthy for me.

1) Why do you want to do this?

2) How does doing this help you to achieve your end goal?

3) How does doing this improve your quality of life?

 

[uidroot]

we still dance so I want to keep it as dance partner and talk normal general **** and nothing more. I do want to keep my dancing going

 

[uidroot]

Can some one please advise me on women are friends..can we have them or is ir not