DonGorgon
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Women love girly men and gay men... they call them "cute" Macho is not in style these days..ChrizZ said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
AFC friend gets *hot* girl
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
not all girls want a non-afc. just like all guys dont want a super femenin girl. its also possible that she's only hot to you. or that ur friend is pulling some **** you dont know about. maybe he's only afc with guys but not women. like he's submissive to guys so you think he is with girls too.
or she is attracted to his honesty and innoncence. women really do want emotuinlal support and that comes best from a friend. if their bf is as good a friend as any girl she know, then thats just another reason to stay with him.
hell, i've got a really hot girl (blonde, blue eyes, hourglass figure, smarter t han i am, extremely witty and personable, good family, etc etc) and im a skinny ass guy who has maybe 2 real male friends. im shy and quiet. lack confidence. had real depression. everyone calls me a "nice guy". whatever...she loves me.
or she is attracted to his honesty and innoncence. women really do want emotuinlal support and that comes best from a friend. if their bf is as good a friend as any girl she know, then thats just another reason to stay with him.
hell, i've got a really hot girl (blonde, blue eyes, hourglass figure, smarter t han i am, extremely witty and personable, good family, etc etc) and im a skinny ass guy who has maybe 2 real male friends. im shy and quiet. lack confidence. had real depression. everyone calls me a "nice guy". whatever...she loves me.
not comenting on ur opinion, but dude, u r not a DJ, u r just another lucky AFC... if u say u r shy, quiet and 'nice'.....steve12b said:not all girls want a non-afc. just like all guys dont want a super femenin girl. its also possible that she's only hot to you. or that ur friend is pulling some **** you dont know about. maybe he's only afc with guys but not women. like he's submissive to guys so you think he is with girls too.
or she is attracted to his honesty and innoncence. women really do want emotuinlal support and that comes best from a friend. if their bf is as good a friend as any girl she know, then thats just another reason to stay with him.
hell, i've got a really hot girl (blonde, blue eyes, hourglass figure, smarter t han i am, extremely witty and personable, good family, etc etc) and im a skinny ass guy who has maybe 2 real male friends. im shy and quiet. lack confidence. had real depression. everyone calls me a "nice guy". whatever...she loves me.
EricInTheHouse
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Why is it so hard to believe that he is a nice guy and she "wanted" to know him a bit more?".. The "stud" she was with(now just a friend) was probably a real jerk and she was tired of it.
I see a TON of guys around that are skinny, kinda scuzzy, but they have some of the cutest girls I have ever seen ... I ask myself quite a bit "How in the heck did that guy get that girl" I have to say that it gives me hope.
Maybe it's because the "cute-Jock type" sometimes let it get to their heads that they are studs..ect ect, and expect the girls to worship him and he in turn acts like an ass treating the girl with disrespect.
I admit younger girls brush that attitude away, so they can just be with a cute guy, but after a while they get tired of the B.S. from a swelled up ego of a StudMuffin.
A lesser attractive guy(like myself) don't have this ego... I rely on just being the best I can and when I see a hot chick I just smile and say candid things.. I don't act all macho and that my Sh!t don't stink...
Girls like to be respected and not treated like they are owned or used.... If you're a guy that can notice that, then yeah, in the long run you will be the guy that gets the hot girl... Looks get old, but respect, and admiration for someone never gets old..
Stop trying to make yourself feel better with people telling you that this "AFC" is just a "side-Plate" for that hot girl... Maybe she actually has feelings for him, and thinks he's a real nice guy who treats her like a "person" not a "hot chick"
I see a TON of guys around that are skinny, kinda scuzzy, but they have some of the cutest girls I have ever seen ... I ask myself quite a bit "How in the heck did that guy get that girl" I have to say that it gives me hope.
Maybe it's because the "cute-Jock type" sometimes let it get to their heads that they are studs..ect ect, and expect the girls to worship him and he in turn acts like an ass treating the girl with disrespect.
I admit younger girls brush that attitude away, so they can just be with a cute guy, but after a while they get tired of the B.S. from a swelled up ego of a StudMuffin.
A lesser attractive guy(like myself) don't have this ego... I rely on just being the best I can and when I see a hot chick I just smile and say candid things.. I don't act all macho and that my Sh!t don't stink...
Girls like to be respected and not treated like they are owned or used.... If you're a guy that can notice that, then yeah, in the long run you will be the guy that gets the hot girl... Looks get old, but respect, and admiration for someone never gets old..
Stop trying to make yourself feel better with people telling you that this "AFC" is just a "side-Plate" for that hot girl... Maybe she actually has feelings for him, and thinks he's a real nice guy who treats her like a "person" not a "hot chick"
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Glad you shared that, gives the rest of us hope...steve12b said:hell, i've got a really hot girl (blonde, blue eyes, hourglass figure, smarter t han i am, extremely witty and personable, good family, etc etc) and im a skinny ass guy who has maybe 2 real male friends. im shy and quiet. lack confidence. had real depression. everyone calls me a "nice guy". whatever...she loves me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.