"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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flippinfreak

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I don't know how to break it down to you guys, but I will try.

An AFC DJ, is a guy who thinks he's all that, he has women, moeny, and power. He has guys praising him, so he thinks everything should go his way now.

The dude used to be a full fledged AFC before he found Sosuave and started living his life. Now he gives advice and people adore him. He doesn't just give reiterated advice from the Bible, he gives examples from his life, so automatically he is viewed as having everything going.

Than, out of nowhere, they have this BIG problem. HUGE problem, that they don't know how to solve. THey make a bunch of logical decisions, they claim how they are right in every which way, never stopping to think that it may be a problem from within them.

An AFC DJ is a guy who's social life is peachy keen, his financial life gets better everyday, and his mental attributes seem to never falter.

On the other hand, his family life is CRAP, his FRIENDS are at his throat, and he can't STAND how his EX-gf, or a FRIENDS GF treat him... generally his life is great, but he still has BIG problems, that ARE NOT "his" fault...

I could label and point fingers, but that's not going to help...

How does an AFC grow? Do they have to see the way, it's impossible for others to show them THEIR problem?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Obsidian

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It doesn't sound like any of those problems have anything to do with being an AFC. If everyone (family + friends) hates you, then you should examine yourself to see if there's any justification for that hatred. If there's not, ditch your friends in favor of new ones and stop hanging out so much with your family.

And who gives a damn what your ex-gf thinks?
 

speedo_meme

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Obsidian said:
It doesn't sound like any of those problems have anything to do with being an AFC. If everyone (family + friends) hates you, then you should examine yourself to see if there's any justification for that hatred. If there's not, ditch your friends in favor of new ones and stop hanging out so much with your family.

And who gives a damn what your ex-gf thinks?
Don't feed the troll.
 

Jariel

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That sounds like me last year. I had no problems attracting women, with conversation, socialising, dating; I was popular and had an amazing social life, but couldn't handle problems when they occurred as I was so used to having everything perfect. I was also an attention wh0re, and though I was never short of attention I depended a little too much on it to make me feel good.

I believe I had two problems: I believed everything was within my power to control and couldn't accept failure. I also lacked true inner confidence.

Maybe this is a stage a lot of DJs go through in their development. Now I can accept that some things are out of my control and I just have to let go, and I finally have inner confidence - that feeling of contentment where you don't have to prove anything, don't need your ego feeding and can handle everything with a carefree attitude.

I believe the most important thing is keeping an open mind and learning from experience. I might think I'm confident, cool and I have everything in order right now, but then I might encounter something tomorrow that I'm unprepared for and forces me to reconsider a few things.
 

flippinfreak

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Obsidian said:
It doesn't sound like any of those problems have anything to do with being an AFC. If everyone (family + friends) hates you, then you should examine yourself to see if there's any justification for that hatred. If there's not, ditch your friends in favor of new ones and stop hanging out so much with your family.

And who gives a damn what your ex-gf thinks?
It's got to do with them NEVER accepting the truth.

If somebody is having fun while they are PISSED for no reason whatsoever, they justify the situation by claiming that the other person is childish.

If the person is ALWAYS saying sorry for EVERYTHING, they justify the situation by saying they are just trying to be nice, no matter how much the person saying sorry, instead of being smart actually works.

When their friends are still the same, making friendly jokes, and just having fun, but NOW all the jokes are thought of as insulting and a challenge. It's justified because those people are 'haters' and they don't like how you've changed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SELF-MASTERY

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Are you trying to taunt another member??? stop that shyt
 
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