AFC brother...what to do?

[vagrant]

If you know what an AFC is then you know how my brother is like. I mean, I was a total AFC awhile back too, until I found this site which taught me a lot about life. Okay, first of all he's 22 yrs old. He's very, very shy, and not surprisingly he's never had a girlfriend in his whole life. He's home everyday doing nothing cuz he doesn't know anyone. I mean, I can tell how much he wants to turn his life around. I want to let him know about the DJ Bible but I feel it would be a little awkward to do so...

Can anybody relate to my situation and help me out? I really feel like it's dragging me down. He cares so much about what other people think of him and I hate it. He's supposed to be a role model to me. He's supposed to be that cool big brother with a nice as$ sports car which i can drive to school once in awhile, who hangs out with pretty chicks, and just go about his life everyday with a smile.

I'm starting to be that guy. The guy with no fear who lives in freedom. I'm worried about my brother though. Both of them. The other one is already 27 yrs old. Same story only worst cuz he's an addict cuz apparently some chick left him. I want to help them both. Put your self in my shoes and feel how much I want to make this happen or how hard it is to be in my situation having two total AFC brothers. Two OLDER brothers if i should say. This is like an epidemic. Even my cousins are all heading the wrong way...

Should I just email them the website or something? I really feel that it's a must to read the DJ Bible and other great articles in this site!~

 

[Maxtro]

I think you should tell them about this game but they may not believe you though because you are the younger brother. You have to bring it up in a non condescending way.

Even better is if you bring a hot girl over and say something to your brothers like, "You see Kristy over there, want to know how I got her? I can teach you, but I have to charge"

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

You could try showing them that you can get girls, and if they're interested, just show them the bible and they'll know it works since you made it clear that it worked for you.

 

[penkitten]

be his wing and guide him!

 

[vagrant]

I think you should tell them about this game but they may not believe you though because you are the younger brother.

You got that right. Last time my brother left his myspace account...please forgive me but I kind of terrorized his profile and saw one message sent to this girl that says..."You're so hot and pretty, I just thought I'd let you know"...the girl replied..."thanks, i get that all the time"...They would not believe a thing if I tell them that's not how you should treat a lady if you're trying to land a date!~

 

[vagrant]

You could try showing them that you can get girls, and if they're interested, just show them the bible and they'll know it works since you made it clear that it worked for you.

Sometimes I feel like printing the whole thing out and just be like, "go ahead and start reading this sh!t"...cuz the way they're acting they've been reading and learning the wrong kind of sh!t. My bro is certainly trying to turn things around being a little assertive but he's being assertive in a way where he thinks he's the burger KING or something. It's cool but don't try that sh!t with me if you can only do it with me. He buys hats all the time. He buys shoes all the time. One time we almost had an argument cuz he's being the burger KING again. I told him that thing I read on one article. "You're like a dog dressed like a wolf"...something like that. Act like it you know. I just can't take it sometimes. I know what he wants but he's afraid. He's afraid of everything. I don't blame him though. I'm here fighting that bad habit too!~

 

[vagrant]

Don't give them anything to read. Not a book. Not here. Nothing. I would also advise against just taking them under your wing and telling them what to do.

Before you can do all of that, you have to let them realize they are being held back by their own selves and not by circumstanse or society. Let them take their frustrations with women out on you by encouraging them to challenge you doing things they themselves can't do with women. If they can't approach for a number, encourage them to bet that you can't do it yourself.

The more they lose, the more they'll wonder how you do it. That's when you start taking them under your wing. Once they taste a little progress, then lead them to reading material. Then here.

thanks for the advice. alright, this is exactly what i'm going to do starting today. walk up to a chick while he's watching and ask for her number and smile at him like it was taking candy from a baby!~

 

[Mr. Ballz]

What I have done to throw my friends in this mindset without showing them the website was to play a little game I like to call Cold Penguin.

the game includes 2 or more people and basically you go out and dare each other to approach. You can give a starter or not but if you point at someone who is obviously approachable (not old, with many people, on the phone) then they HAVE to do it. It can start out as a money bet to actually make them do it and whoever does not approach does not gain a point. after an amount of turns the game is over.

You will soon find out which friends have the mindset for djing and which ones are too *****. If they want it, they will do it.

after playing the game for a while, the rules become harder such as, making them open with unique lines "draw me a penguin" or more daring approaches (larger groups, phones, people rushing). The amount of flexibiltiy with this from beginner to advanced is quite nice.

Although i found MANY people too scared to play this game, when you convince one to do it, they feel that first rush of what we are all about.

 

[sandman6991]

Cold Penguin...I like that game...I'm going to try that out myself with my friends tonight...I need to just get out there and do something

 

[Bible_Belt]

What is the power dynamic like between your parents? Is your father lacking as a role model? Maybe that's why you want your brother to be a role model so much.

It sounds like your brothers have low self-esteem. Do what you can to help them with that.

 

[vagrant]

What is the power dynamic like between your parents? Is your father lacking as a role model? Maybe that's why you want your brother to be a role model so much.

It sounds like your brothers have low self-esteem. Do what you can to help them with that.

My father was definitely lacking as a role model. He's a very very very hard worker let me tell you that. But when it comes down to the ladies my dad is the definition of AFC. Maybe it's the reason I'm not a player though I have everything good going on for me. I know I can get a lot of girls but it kills me to break a girl's heart. My dad never fooled around and so I thought that's the way to go. Plus, I was washed up with all the movies I saw in the past. Now I got one girl who has oneitis for me who I feel really bad of letting go cuz she's so damn f*cking nice to me. She's pretty yes but she lives in another state and I see a lot of chicks around me. I know I got a lot of work to do.

You got a girl in another state. You want to date but you don't want her to screw another guy. Is that love or selfishness?...I mean what do you call that cuz I'm in that situation right now.

Well, I don't really need them to be a role model for me cuz I'm old enough to think for my self. I'm old enough to use my own judgment and I'm old enough to know what I want in life and what I need to do so I can have them. I'm not even worried about me I'm worried about them cuz they're getting old and none of them had a good relationship with a girl and I'm assuming cuz I don't know that they're both still a virgin.

I'm trying to help them with their self-esteem. I go out and skate with my brother and play basketball with the other. I ask them to come with me wherever to places where they can meet people. They're afraid to meet new people. They're afraid to leave their comfort zone...I don't know...ugh!~

 

[vagrant]

What I have done to throw my friends in this mindset without showing them the website was to play a little game I like to call Cold Penguin.

the game includes 2 or more people and basically you go out and dare each other to approach. You can give a starter or not but if you point at someone who is obviously approachable (not old, with many people, on the phone) then they HAVE to do it. It can start out as a money bet to actually make them do it and whoever does not approach does not gain a point. after an amount of turns the game is over.

You will soon find out which friends have the mindset for djing and which ones are too *****. If they want it, they will do it.

after playing the game for a while, the rules become harder such as, making them open with unique lines "draw me a penguin" or more daring approaches (larger groups, phones, people rushing). The amount of flexibiltiy with this from beginner to advanced is quite nice.

Although i found MANY people too scared to play this game, when you convince one to do it, they feel that first rush of what we are all about.

That's a good advice but me and my brothers aren't that close to play a game like that. We never talk about girls in front of each other. I know it's crazy!~

 

[Bible_Belt]

It's not a sign of weakness to want your father to be a role model. All of us do, and all fathers fall short in their own way.

but it kills me to break a girl's heart

I know, but wait until you have your heart broken a few times. Then it will seem different. It's not reasonable to commit to a girl a state away.

 

[vagrant]

It's not a sign of weakness to want your father to be a role model. All of us do, and all fathers fall short in their own way.

but it kills me to break a girl's heart

I know, but wait until you have your heart broken a few times. Then it will seem different. It's not reasonable to commit to a girl a state away.

what do you mean different?

 

[Bible_Belt]

What if that girl were professing her undying love for you at the same time she was having freaky no-limits sex with some other guy, or guys? After that happens to you a few times, you feel differently. LDRs just lead to the woman moving on before the guy and stringing him along as he endures celibacy for no good reason. This is part of why LDRs are futile.

 

[vagrant]

What if that girl were professing her undying love for you at the same time she was having freaky no-limits sex with some other guy, or guys? After that happens to you a few times, you feel differently. LDRs just lead to the woman moving on before the guy and stringing him along as he endures celibacy for no good reason. This is part of why LDRs are futile.

The thing is she's not like that. Never in her whole life would she do that. Not because it's her personality but she knows she can't afford to loose me. I'm on the other side of the river though. I feel like there's so many girls out there for me and I want to take a look around. I want a quality girl. I don't know. Am I asking for too much? I mean I want to have sex too but I can't cuz I'm with her? I feel like I'm stuck cuz she won't let me go and when she does I feel like I'm going to miss on a whole lot. Plus it's hard cuz I feel like no other girl would be this crazy for me. It's like, I want her love but I want some as$ and I can't decide. At the age of 20 I'm picking as$ but this decision might not be so great?!?!?!?!

 

[Bible_Belt]

No, ass is better than love, especially at age 20.

And every woman will look elsewhere if they are not getting what they want. Wait until you guys have a fight. Then she will fall 'in love' with some other guy right away. It is a common story. If I ever catch myself thinking, "My girl would never cheat," then trouble is on the horizon.

 

[Bvbidd]

The thing is she's not like that. Never in her whole life would she do that.

You are a retard.

 

[vagrant]

The saying is true. “Tell me who you walk with and I will tell you who you are.” Hang out with guys who are successful with women and I promise you that you will be successful with women.

I got it off from the DJ Bible. Damn, does this mean I have to stop hanging out with my brothers?