"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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afc at ASU.. conversation with girls

Stark

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hey im a soph at ASU right now. theres tons of girls in my classes that I'm attracted to. I have all the rescources i need. im decent looking i go to the gym often, 5'9 tall. im in a fraternity so i have some events i can invite girls. i have confidence enough to where i can talk to girls and not get slaughtered.
i have 5 classes and in all of them i have hot girls i sit next to.

my only sticking point is conversation and comfort building. this has always been my hardest obstacle. i tend to stick to topics about school, or how was your weekend, or various things.. pretty general. conversations start out well for me but end in silence cas i don't have anymore meat to feed conversations and then the girls will turn around and talk to their girl friends about god knows what for hours.

alot of times i notice i get numbers but none of them turn out to be anything. another piece of evidence my comfort and conversation need improving.

what are some big tips you guys can give me? or the most helpful articles you read that you can direct me to? im rather clueless on how to become graceful in conversations.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bible_Belt

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Is it ever fun? Do you ever enjoy talking to a girl? Or are you just trying to get them to talk to you at the sacrifice of any genuine interest on your part? I have the attitude that I don't like talking to most women, and I only do it when I actually enjoy it.

In a classroom setting, your best bets are the girls that show interest in you first. Otherwise, skip the boring classroom chitchat, and you have about the same chance when you run into a hot girl later at a party. It is 100x easier to pick out the girls who like you first than it is to pick a random attractive girl and try to seduce her in a classroom.
 
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