"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aerobics and lifting

speakeasy

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I take mixed martial arts about 3-4 times a week. Classes are 1 hour and as you can imagine, the aerobic work out from the training and sparring is intense. I'm not doing it for the aerobics but because I want fight skills primarily.

I also want to put on muscle. I don't care about trying to be super strong or look like the Terminator. I just want some more bulk and definition so that I look sexy to the ladies when I take my shirt off at the beach. I admit my only reasons here are purely for vanity.

Now here's the question with regards to mixing heavy aerobic work with weight training. Is it best to lift weights before or after aerobics? I don't think most people do them together. I know my caloric surplus is getting used up by the martial arts so it's difficult for me to gain weight. But is it bad for your muscles to have these things going on the same day? For example doing my martial arts class then going to the gym to lift afterwards? Or is it best to alternate with only martial arts say on mon, wed, fri and weights on tues, thr, sat?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Generally it's best to seperate out aerobic and anerobic exercise in my opinion.

I imagine MMA is very intense on the muscles so I would definately seperate that from any weight training.

I think it's fine to do a bit of a treadmill warm up before weights, and to finish off with a bit of cardio after the weights.. but on the whole I like to hit the weights fresh, take a good post workout shake and then relax.

Weight train on non mma days or at least at different parts of the day. Also plan your weights routine careful. Do a routine that supports your MMA, focusing on explosive movements and one thats will help you for your MMA.
 

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just put some hours between the work outs... i do mma mwf, and sometimes sat.. but its usually 2 hour class, and 1 hour open mat.. just so it happens, my lifting days are mwf .. so i just lift in the morning and train from 6-9.. you put on weight SLOWLY, but u also get more muscle exhaustion and somewhat better strenght gains.
 

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well by the end of the night your muscles have been pretty much pushed to complete failure, but with a healthy diet, I feel they are made stronger, quicker. The strenght gains aren't noticed in the gym except in the compound movements, but more so when u can pick up a 200lb guy that has you in a triangle and repeatedly slam the **** out of him
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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