"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Advise please women from a different culture

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This particular women was brought up in Europe but her parents and family are Arabic. So a strict upbringing regarding dating, must be a virgin before marriage e.t.c.

She's only ever slept with one guy her ex husband.

She's recently come of a divorce (a guy from the same culture) , apparently she's been dating western guys a year or so, has never even kissed a guy during that time. Just been rejecting them all.

Anyways she's only gone and broken all her rules with me. She's just gone back after spending the weekend at mine, and we slept together a lot.

Now she's gone the reality of the situation has kinda hit home for me. To be fair I like her quite a bit , but in hindsight railing her all weekend might not have been the smartest of moves.

She's being very clingy, and is acting like I'm the love of her life.

I do really like her , but need to put the breaks on a bit.

Not sure what to do. Help please.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There is a "Love is Blind" in the Middle East, which reveals a lot of the differences with western countries. Instead of sharing a room at a resort - they had separate rooms at the resort. When couples normally live together for weeks - they went back to their respective families.

Given that context, imagine how her family will think about your relationship.
 

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apparently she's been dating western guys a year or so, has never even kissed a guy during that time.
What kind of dating is that?

"Congratulations", you corrupted a "decent girl".
 

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What kind of dating is that?

"Congratulations", you corrupted a "decent girl".
I tried my best to warn her that I would corrupt her. I actually used the words " I will corrupt you" that she needs to think and stick to her morals when around me.

Haha maybe the best thing to do now would be marry her ;)
 
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There is a "Love is Blind" in the Middle East, which reveals a lot of the differences with western countries. Instead of sharing a room at a resort - they had separate rooms at the resort. When couples normally live together for weeks - they went back to their respective families.

Given that context, imagine how her family will think about your relationship.
Oh god. I don't even want to think about that haha
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I literally just bumped into a different women I know. She just asked to meet up this week. She was giving me the doughy, I want to **** you eyes and I swear she was about to blow me a kiss when she drove off.

Luckily we were only passing in a carpark, car windows down talking and another car started coming in so she had to go as she was blocking the entrance, so didn't arrange anything.

So that was a close call. As I really find her attractive and this will be a cluster ****, adding another to the mix.

So that's bought me a little time to decide how I proceed here.

I think it would be playing fire here wouldn't it, predicted with caution yeah?

Like I really want to be I think it could be a mess.
 
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