"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DmanD

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Hello DJs

About a year and a half ago i started learning the art of DJing. Since then I have made a big progress. So ty all and ty sosuave.com.
Now to my problem. Although I talk to alot of girls and many of these girls even made a move first, I feel like I deserve better then 5-6 girls, especially when they are all over me. For some reason I dont make it to 8 and higher girls. I dont want to date avarage (both in looks and personality) girls, and do my best to improve myself. However when it comes to "better" girls I'm fairly inexperienced and dont score so much since the competition is harder.
Moreover, this year I moved to a new school and I dont have many really cool friends since most of the "cool" guys just get wasted every friday night, which is not my thing to do...
Am I just going through a hard period or should I date avarage girls to get experience? (I didnt make out w/ a girl for about a year..:eek: )

Ty for ur help
DManD
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nobody has posted yet, so I figure I would help you out. I am new at this forum, however, I have been DJ'ing for about a year now, so I might be able to help you out.
For starters, set yourself apart from other guys! You have to be doing something wrong if all you are getting is 5's and 6's. Make some new guy friends. Now when I say this, I do not mean to stop hanging around your old guy friends, but meet new ones. I am pretty sure that not ALL the guys that are considered "cool" get wasted... unless you live in Amsterdam, everything is legal there. Anyway! I suggest you check out some David Deangalo material, and browse some topics in this forum, it will help you learn alot.
But if it is anything I am going to end my post with, it is this. The only reason you are scoring more with these average women are because you treat them like average women! The next time you see a 7 or an 8 (Remember, baby steps. Do not start approaching 9's or 10's) treat them like they are a 5 or a 6. Hope I helped!
 

smooth guy

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I take it before learning about this site or DJing in general you got no girls at all. getting hb's 5 or 6 is still a sign that you are improving..you cant go to the HBs10 straight away. Use the 5-6's for practice and experience and slowly you'll get IOI from the hotter ones. The hotter ones want more experienced guys and that is what you need, experience.

Also are you good looking? Do anything that is possible to improve how you look, have style when you dress, etc.
 

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Thanks

But since most of the girls I meet are in my school should I date as much as possible???

P.S. cause I know a guy who hits on all the girls and though he is often sometimes his rep is going down... Bad player rep or whatever..

I guess u should do everything in moderation.

I'd like to hear your thoughts on the matter
 

smooth guy

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Are you sure this guy's reputation is going down because he's a player?? or because he keeps hitting on girls and gets no ass? or because he has more girlfriends than male friends??

Like I said get as much experience as you can. Experience is how you improve. Reading the dj bible with no real experience doesn't get you anywhere.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Only go after girls to whom you are attracted - men choose and women make a choice!
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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If you're looking for a girlfriend I don't think it matters what they look like. As long as your attracted to her and she makes you happy. If your looking to just f@ck different girls that are dime peices than ur gonna have to STEP YOUR GAME UP PLAYA!
 

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You are not loosing any reputation by going out with multiple goes. As long as you are not cheating on a girl you are going out with, you are fine.
In fact, when girls talk about guys that are players, they are doing a majority of the work for you! By showing yourself as a player, woman will realize, "Hey, if many other women are interested in him.. maybe there is something I should know and I should get to know him better!"
Surround yourself with ALOT of girls - the best thing I did.
 
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