Advise me...I'm desperate

[556]

Hi Folks..

First a little about myself. 8-9 months ago I left my girlfriend after 9 years together. I was rebounding a short while, getting a lot of confidence in myself..I was for a few weeks a real killer at the bars and clubs. Then I met this girl..who I have been seeing for 7 months now. I am deeply in love with her...and I have disregarded all good player tricks.. I have been her well trained monkey and told her and showed her how deeply I love her. The problem is that she has all this time had a boyfriend who she lives with..she can't take the decision to leave him.. and I can't play the game with her..she means too much to me. I know she really likes me since she never can't let me be, if we have a short break, which we have often, from her initiative. btw. we do have sex occasionally, but it is difficult while she is with him.

What is your advise, should I change my way and starting to not care so much (will be hard, maybe impossible) or should I continue my strategy of being real and sincere? Please don't just say I should dump her..she could be the ONE..

Looking forward to hear your viewpoints
/556

 

[COD]

hmmm well rule number 1, if a chic lives with a guy.......you hit it then quit it til he moves out.

solution is make her work for you instead of you chasing her.......then date other women in addition to her.....you already entered the 1 itis realm.


hard to get out from 1 itis.

 

[WRX_is_like_SEX]

Hi Folks..

I have been her well trained monkey and told her and showed her how deeply I love her. The problem is that she has all this time had a boyfriend who she lives with..she can't take the decision to leave him... I know she really likes me
/556

There's yr answer . . . . .She likes you hey???:crazy: :crazy: :crazy:

 

[556]

OK COD, so you are saying that I should continue what I am doing, but be more laid back and make her run after me. I guess you are right I should see somebody else..I did that in the beginning, she found out and actually made me understand that I was the unfaithful liar..:crazy:
If she didn't have the boyfriend it would be easy, but now I am afraid that if I hold back with indicating my interest in her, it will be an advantage for the guy who has the easy access to her life..or shouldn't I care about that?

 

[RAFCbearfilm]

I love it!!! You were dating someone else in the beginning and she made you think you were unfaithful to her! HA! Sorry, but that is priceless coming from a woman cheating on her boyfriend.
Take a step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes for a minute - who is in control here and who is in charge? (hint: it's not you) Go out and be a man, get her to come to you but better yet, move on to someone else. There is nothing to gain from here that you haven't already passed up by your oneitis.
I would say start doing the OPPOSITE of everything you are doing now, stop worrying that she knows you are interested, trust me I think she knows.