"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Soooo. Lol. I still am kinda just taking everything slow (weighing my options). I am really not trying to lead you on in anyway (I'm purposely leading you on while I look for my best option), but I am in no way interested in anything right now (Actually, I take that back. I just want a Chad to rebound with). I just got outta a year and a half relationship and I don't wanna jump into anything right now (I'm just looking for a f buddy, no strings attached). I think you're a super nice guy (sorry, you're sweet... I'm just not attracted to that) and I'm down to hang out with you when we're all together (I like your validation and attention on tap) and but I don't think I'm ready for anything more than that. I'm sorry (I'm not sorry, though I'm trying to be sensitive to your feelings).

W0manese breakdown in blue. Find other women who show higher interest level than this girl. Continue to work on yourself, self confidence, and frame.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Soooo. Lol. I still am kinda just taking everything slow. I am really not trying to lead you on in anyway, but I am in no way interested in anything right now. I just got outta a year and a half relationship and I don't wanna jump into anything right now. I think you're a super nice guy and I'm down to hang out with you when we're all together but I don't think I'm ready for anything more than that. I'm sorry

so that's what she said. how should I respond? lol
"Super nice guy"...

"Hang when were all together"...

Go fvck some other bytches and ignore this one . I don't care if their fat or uglier.

Shell try to call in 2-3 weeks. She likes your attention, but you devalued it being good to her.

Get her 1:1 for drinks somehow .
 

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And for the record Ryan, if a chick was flirting with me, grinding on me while dancing, I would NOT ask her out on a date.

I probably wouldnt ask her out at all if we hung out with the same social circle and I knew I would see her out consistently. I would simply flirt back a little, dance a little (and dance with other chicks too) and slow play it.

Make yourself and you intentions mysterious with a woman like this. Make her think "Does he like me or just like me as a friend" and you will drive a woman like this nuts to the point that she cant take it anymore and will isolate you and find out if you want to fvck her or not.

You are a chaser. You have to make the chicks the chasers in this game if you want to win each battle and ultimately win the war in this dating game.

If I cant get a chick pursuing me, I dont really push it with her because she is probably lower interest. I normally can get her to start pursuing if I stay cool and quite and for sure stay mysterious and other than some physical escalation, never let my emotional thoughts be know (a mystery).

You have quite a bit of work to do.
I'm trying dude lol. her sister even told me it is absolutly way to early and everyone else told me it was too but. its whatever I gave it a shot.
 

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"Super nice guy"...

"Hang when were all together"...

Go fvck some other bytches and ignore this one . I don't care if their fat or uglier.

Shell try to call in 2-3 weeks. She likes your attention, but you devalued it being good to her.

Get her 1:1 for drinks somehow .
yeah im not gonna try with this one anymore. if she wants to get at me she knows my number. I was never like good to her unreasonably I'm just that type of guy im not a d!ckhead so to say I guess.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm trying dude lol. her sister even told me it is absolutly way to early and everyone else told me it was too but. its whatever I gave it a shot.
It’s not all bad. She knows you have some interest in her. And are willing to step up and ask her out, to see if she was interested as well. She might hit you up later on if you aren’t needy and carry on with life like you don’t care.
 

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I'm trying dude lol. her sister even told me it is absolutly way to early and everyone else told me it was too but. its whatever I gave it a shot.
She will get jealous and interested when her SUPER nice guy or orbiter is Don juanning and piping down other chick(s).. serious women love it when your preselected.
 

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I truly don't care lol I gave it a shot and didnt land this one.
It ain't over . Awesome attitude . Now that you don't give a fvck watch her start sniffing around in 2-3 weeks . Women these days pursue. It's your job to set up an opportunity for sex to happen .

Focus on yourself, your purpose and babes who are choosing you. If it's not one of these three things it should not be on your mind.
 
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dude I've been hitting the gym. got a house I'm about to settle on and just got a raise. and I got a few chicks on my radar who have been. slowly blowing me up more and more. I'm in a good place at the moment.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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dude I've been hitting the gym. got a house I'm about to settle on and just got a raise. and I got a few chicks on my radar who have been. slowly blowing me up more and more. I'm in a good place at the moment.
Slow play. Do not ask a chick to hang out or out on a date until you know for certain they have high interest.

Be busy.
 

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yes seriously. her sister told me it's to early to ask her out. I'm asking for your dudes advice.

I cant tell if shes interested really or not I mean she will lightly flirt with me. but nothing super good to go off of
Didn’t read responses ITT yet but:

Don’t listen to what her sister says. She probs got a rebound fvck within a week of breaking up with her bf.

Only way to know if she’s interested is to just go for it.

Since the concert has already passed obviously, hit her up via text, flirt for a couple messages then ask her out to “x” on x-day and at x:xx pm.

You choose everything and lead her.

If she declines with no counter offer, she isn’t interested or has low interest.

I usually give benefit of the doubt and wait a week or 2 before asking her out again and if same result? Next.

And by “asking” I mean “telling”
 

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Soooo. Lol. I still am kinda just taking everything slow. I am really not trying to lead you on in anyway, but I am in no way interested in anything right now. I just got outta a year and a half relationship and I don't wanna jump into anything right now. I think you're a super nice guy and I'm down to hang out with you when we're all together but I don't think I'm ready for anything more than that. I'm sorry

so that's what she said. how should I respond? lol
Ok yea forget what I just said above. If a girl literally tells you she thinks you’re a nice guy then it’s over.

At least until she sees a change in you and that you are getting other women.

Go get other babez
 

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Slow play. Do not ask a chick to hang out or out on a date until you know for certain they have high interest.

Be busy.
They gonna ask him if he keeps on this pace. Im excited for him with all his progress.
 

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They gonna ask him if he keeps on this pace. Im excited for him with all his progress.
That's the point. Being a mystery and not being available or foaming at the mouth over them makes them crack like an egg hitting concrete.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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im just gonna keep doing what im doing. I didnt take this chick as a rejection as I was told by numerous people it was to early but idgaf. I wanted to strike while the iron is hot. there a million more out there. I feel as if I'm making great strides in my game.
 
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im just gonna keep doing what im doing. I didnt take this chick as a rejection as I was told by numerous people it was to early but idgaf. I wanted to strike while the iron is hot. there a million more out there. I feel as if I'm making great strides in my game.
Dont take this the wrong way, but idc if a chick just got out of a 5 yr relationship last week.

If she has high interest she can be fvcked.
 

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She can I agree but i mean this chick has very little interest in me so im not gonna waste my time on trying for something when I have other stuff to do and better opportunities to capitalize on.

I usually get girls by looks alone as I'm a decent looking guy. But I need to step my game up but I am trying.
 

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She can I agree but i mean this chick has very little interest in me so im not gonna waste my time on trying for something when I have other stuff to do and better opportunities to capitalize on.

I usually get girls by looks alone as I'm a decent looking guy. But I need to step my game up but I am trying.
That's a much better idgaf attitude. I like it
 

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from this site I've learned a ton. it took being a little b!tch about the ghoster chick to really open my eyes. Abundance mentality is the way to go these woman would be lucky to be with me if they dont like me it is their loss in my eyes on the the next
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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