Advice?

[Joeybphs]

Need some help with something I was dealing with.

there's this girl I was talking to via MSN last night before bed, who was going to come over today.
She said some stuff that pissed me off, then told me she was going to bed but not until I tell her goodnight.

So instead, I just told her to go to bed and signed off, since I was angry.

I woke up around 11:00 with no messages from her, so I texted her and told her it'd be nice to let me know if she'd be coming or not.

So she calls right afterwards and totally busts my balls for what I 'did' last night, then hung up on me. Being stupid, I waited a few minutes then called her back. She told me she wasn't coming over today and that we could do something another time.

I apologized for what I did, and she's still being a little ***** about everything and I don't know wtf to do.

 

[faiNt`]

Need some help with something I was dealing with.

there's this girl I was talking to via MSN last night before bed, who was going to come over today.
She said some stuff that pissed me offright here is your mistake .. you let her **** test affect you .. you let her actions affect your emtoional state .. never ever do this, then told me she was going to bed but not until I tell her goodnight.

So instead, I just told her to go to bed and signed off, since I was angry.once again .. her actions caused you to react .. not what you're looking for .. everything you do should be funny/playeful .. i feel like that is a 100% better game plan than funny/****y really

I woke up around 11:00 with no messages from her she won .. she made you react .. the battle was over why would she contact you?, so I texted her and told her it'd be nice to let me know if she'd be coming or not.

So she calls right afterwards and totally busts my balls for what I 'did' last night, then hung up on me. Being stupid, I waited a few minutes then called her backdont worry about that .. the mistake was already made and it pretty much snow balled. She told me she wasn't coming over today and that we could do something another time. power shift move

I apologized for what I didi hope you didn't say "im sorry for doing X" ..., and she's still being a little ***** about everything and I don't know wtf to do. next/no contact because you played the part of an AFC and must go find your sack

I don't mean to be harsh, but I feel that is what gets me going. If someone gives me a tough critic of my actions, it makes me want go to fix whatever.

 

[eaglez1177]

Im gonna have to disagree a bit with faint...the big mistake was made at the end.

Need some help with something I was dealing with.

there's this girl I was talking to via MSN last night before bedtry to avoid talking over the internet, who was going to come over today.
She said some stuff that pissed me off, then told me she was going to bed but not until I tell her goodnight.Ughh i cant stand girls like this...next this chick dude shes not worth it...what shes doing here is giving you a sh*t test to see if you will obey by her rules. Its like a very sublymonal method of control for her. She acts all sad and give you bullsh*t emotions until you cave in to her demands.

So instead, I just told her to go to bed and signed off, since I was angryYou did the right thing here. You didnt cave in to her demands. You were kinda angry, but didnt really show it that much. It wouldve been much worse had you flipped out on her and then signed off. You instead just told her to go to bed and sign off. You prolly couldve done a little more to hide the fact that you were angry (like say, "ohh im tired im gonna go to bed...talk to ya soon"), but nonetheless I like how you didnt just do what she told you to do. Unfortunately she was able to figure out that you got mad, which is not good at all..

I woke up around 11:00 with no messages from her, so I texted her and told her it'd be nice to let me know if she'd be coming or not.Dont do this. Your leaving the decision up to her; something you do not want to do. YOU make the decisions, dont leave it up to her.

So she calls right afterwards and totally busts my balls for what I 'did' last night, then hung up on me.Im not surprised she did this...this chick was mad because you didnt do what she wanted. You didnt let her have the control. This chick is trying to control you man, and shes getting mad at you when you dont let yourself be controlled. Next her and dont let yourself become her AFC SLAVE. Being stupid, I waited a few minutes then called her back.Ahhhhh noo! Why the hell would you do this!? There is NO reason for you to do this at all! She told me she wasn't coming over today and that we could do something another time.You NEVER should have called her back. Let her piss and moan by herself, dont drag yourself back into it.

I apologized for what I didand you apologized!? Doing this COMPLETELY undid what you accomplished by not giving in to her demand. What this is now is you giving up and letting her win! Think of it man: Your apologizing to her because she found out you were mad and because you didnt say goodnight to her. That doesnt sound totally crazy to you!? SHE should be the one apologizing for getting mad at you over the dumbest fvcking sh*t! Girls are so crazy these days..., and she's still being a little ***** about everything and I don't know wtf to do.Honestly dude, next this b*tch, shes a control freak, a drama queen, and most likely an attention wh*re as well.

 

[Joeybphs]

haha I love this forum, thanks guys. Were cool now, she was giving me **** like 'i won't put up with this crap' when I was being nice and she was being a *****. Oh well.

 

[eaglez1177]

See! Exactly what I'm trying to say. "I wont put up with this crap". Who the fvck does she think she is? I hope you said back "Okay, and I won't either". Then never say a word to her again.

And notice how you said you were "being nice". Nice guys ALWAYS finish last, as this situation you described just proved. You were being "nice" and apologized to her.