Advice

[DirtSlam]

There's this girl that i used to be completely infatuated with a good 3 years back. Unfortuantely my inexperience saw me land right in the middle of the friend zone. So much so that she used to ring me up to ***** about other boys. Unfortunately i thought that was a sign that she really liked me. haha.
I finally figured that staying close to this girl was getting me knowhere and causing a lot of grief so i decided to step back. For the last couple of years i've had next to no contact with her past the polite hello when passing in the street.

Now i find out that she's going to be in one of my classes next year and i would love to actually get somewhere the second time around. Is this a non starter? Will it be a waste of time? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers

DirtySlam

 

[decades]

bad idea. Why the heck are you not finding other women to get infatuated about? why aren't you dating? why aren't you Screwing other women? This woman toys with you. And your ONEitis mentality is no match for her. She uses you. Do you want it to be another 3 years before your mind is ready to move on and meet other women. When a woman talks about the other Penis that are going into her she is ABUSING you. Understand? Hang the phone up and NEXT when that happens? Ok?

 

[DirtSlam]

there has been lots of different girls in that three years but nothing really that serious. why would i think about re-trying? SHE IS HOT. A rariety in my town

 

[likelychump]

Back in my freshman year of college, I had a female friend who I eventually got a pretty bad case of one-itis for. I eventually asked her out and got rejected. So after that year, I barely interacted with her, though still remained friendly. I went to her big performances when she sent me an invite, but that was it. I certainly didn't talk to her about other men. I had a couple of long term relationships during that time, and got in better shape. Then later in my senior year, she started talking to me more. I played it cool, hung with her at some parties, and at the very end of the year, had sex with her. She's living in another city now, so nothing serious could develop, but it might have if circumstances allowed. So it's not an impossible thing, but it's really up to her. Just keep your distance, and work on yourself. Maybe she'll realize what she's missing. But it's up to her. Focus elsewhere.

 

[Axcell]

Next her. You've got a terrible case of oneitis and even if you do get into a relationship, it sounds like she'll automatically become the prize. Once you lose the power in the relationship, it will end, and I'll have to reply to your thread of "Where did I go wrong." lol.

Go out there and meet tons of new women - nothing should be stopping you! You'll realize that once you start talking to more women, you'll loose the current infatuation and your oneitis will dissapear.

 

[TheEdgeOf]

Do whatever the hell you want, what have you got to lose?