"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Advice! Younger man going for older woman

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Alright, so basically I've known this girl for a couple years now. I'm 19, if that's even considered being a man, and shes 23. I've been out with her before (Clubs, parties and other events), but it was never a 1 on 1 situation, friends were always with us. We usually hit it off pretty well and end up small talking or dancing, but we've never actually got to know each other or even have a full conversation. And before I continue, she KNOWS I like her and have interest.
In Canada the legal drinking age in my province is 19, so I can take her out to more mature places.

Heres the problem. I'm a highschool dropout who was unemployed, sounds bad but keep reading. And shes still in school, on her way to a great career. I realized I can't take her out, or even see her with no money so I got a job, found an apartment and I'm splitting rent with a friend. I've always said "Fix yourself before looking for someone" but its conflicting with my other saying "The good ones go if you wait too long". And lets face it, shes amazing and I don't know how much longer she'll wait.

Should I call her up? Where would be a good place to take her to considering I'm still in my teens and shes a woman. Dinners fine and I can always ask her what she like doing in her free time. But I want to take her somewhere fun, and memorable.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ah, to call a 23 year old woman "older" again...

So she knows you like her, but you've never even had a conversation with her? And you're hoping she wants to settle down with a younger man with no job?

It should be the other way around. As should your ages. When you are 23 you will find a girl like her who is 19 and who has conversations and even sex with you, and you won't care that she has no job, only that her pvssy smells like candy. You're at a tough age for a man. For 95% of men, at age 19 women your age (and older) are out of your league.

Half your age plus 7. Find a 16.5 year old (when you still can).
 

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bigneil said:
Ah, to call a 23 year old woman "older" again...

So she knows you like her, but you've never even had a conversation with her? And you're hoping she wants to settle down with a younger man with no job?

It should be the other way around. As should your ages. When you are 23 you will find a girl like her who is 19 and who has conversations and even sex with you, and you won't care that she has no job, only that her pvssy smells like candy. You're at a tough age for a man. For 95% of men, at age 19 women your age (and older) are out of your league.

Half your age plus 7. Find a 16.5 year old (when you still can).
Harsh reality, but its the truth. Everything you've said I've thought about, if we don't click when I take her out, believe me I wont waste her time after that. But I'll stay positive and still go for it!
 

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Doesn't matter what the heck it is that you do. All that matters is whether she is attracted to you or not.

A woman would rather be with a man "down on his luck" (like you) who she gets wet for,than a boring successful man who she feels nothing for.

No harm in giving it a shot, though you probably should have done it a few years ago when you first met her. Of course, depends on how much a part of your social circle she is.

Forget all this b/s talk about how great she is and you think she is amazing, to start with only focus on getting in her pants.

Tease her and see if she goes along with it. If she seems into it, then throw in a few s!xual innuendos (anything involving the word "wet" works a treat) and see how they go down, isolate her to somewhere convenient, get physical and boom!

Don't waste time taking her out for dinner unless alcohol is involved. My motto is that if you are meeting up with a girl for the first time, alcohol should ALWAYS be involved.

Say what you like, helps to lube up the conversation (and other places ;)) and you'd be crazy not to.
 

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Doesn't matter what the heck it is that you do. All that matters is whether she is attracted to you or not.

A woman would rather be with a man "down on his luck" (like you) who she gets wet for,than a boring successful man who she feels nothing for.

No harm in giving it a shot, though you probably should have done it a few years ago when you first met her. Of course, depends on how much a part of your social circle she is.

Forget all this b/s talk about how great she is and you think she is amazing, to start with only focus on getting in her pants.

Tease her and see if she goes along with it. If she seems into it, then throw in a few s!xual innuendos (anything involving the word "wet" works a treat) and see how they go down, isolate her to somewhere convenient, get physical and boom!

Don't waste time taking her out for dinner unless alcohol is involved. My motto is that if you are meeting up with a girl for the first time, alcohol should ALWAYS be involved.

Say what you like, helps to lube up the conversation (and other places ;)) and you'd be crazy not to.
Haha at the time she had a boyfriend, and we rarely saw each other. Ill take her out first and see what shes like. In the future Ill work some of that in if shes comfortable with that :p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If her IL is high enough then her IL is high enough, and you being a few years younger (or anything else about you, really) isn't going to make any difference.

But stop making AFC mistakes like hesitating to ask a girl out or putting her on a pedestal (you sound like you have a moderate case of oneitis). Make sure to keep the plates spinning.
 

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sighsigh said:
If her IL is high enough then her IL is high enough, and you being a few years younger (or anything else about you, really) isn't going to make any difference.

But stop making AFC mistakes like hesitating to ask a girl out or putting her on a pedestal (you sound like you have a moderate case of oneitis). Make sure to keep the plates spinning.

:box: :box: :box: :box: **** being an AFC, gloves come off TODAY :trouble:
 

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I thought this was gonna be about milfs.

Anyways, just improve yourself, which you should be doing anyway. Is the IL high? Does she get wet for you? If you answered yes, then you should be fine.

You're insecure. If it bothers you, fix it or at least work on it. Don't sit around.
And if you wait too late to escalate, you'll go masturbate.

Get off your ass and handle your business. :cool:
 

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Won't deny I'm insecure with my current predicament, but I'll let the looks and game do the talking ;)
 

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she'll probably date you/have sex with you but she isn't gonna "settle down" with you.

and even if she did, why would you? your 19...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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