"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Advice regarding shy guy and finding that special lady?

crackers444

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I am wondering what advice you can give me on finding a girlfriend for a guy like me who is very shy. I am a good looking intelligent guy, who only seems to get recognized for looks and intellect online. The girls I seem to be attracted to either have bf's/lifestyles don't match mine/live far away or I chat with them online and then they don't come online as much(such as girl that I chatted with my internet girlfriend if you may). We chatted constantly online for hours on end and for a few months, then recentley she hasn't been online in almost a month. I sent her a birthday card/postcards/gift card and hasn't responded back yet. We share the same birthday/personality/interests. Any advice would be greatly appreciated regarding my situation!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"I am a good looking intelligent guy, who only seems to get recognized for looks and intellect online."



There is no other shy guy. :D



You claim that you are being recognized for looks and intellect ONLINE.. Now, that's because women are using you as their little online emotional tampon. In other words, you are their girl friend.. Eventually you show romantic interest in them and they loose interest.. That is because you're just a girlfriend, you have a pvssy, they have a pvssy too, it's not interesting.. All the while ONLINE.. Not interesting!


You are pretty desperate as well. You want a girlfriend. You don't just a one night stand, you actually want a girl that will be with you for ever and ever until the end of time.. A girlfriend.. You didn't even met a b!tch in real life. :D


For a girl to become your girlfriend she must qualify for that. Anything less is desperation.


www.bristollair.com << You go to that website and you learn.
 

everywomanshero

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First off you are not genetically a shy guy. You may or may not have been predisposed genetically to such a thing, but your environmental conditions growing up caused you to label yourself as a shy guy. If you want, and with great effort, you can change this feeling. Many others before you have.

Second, if you just want to increase the chances of finding a girlfriend, I suggest you look for religious women or small town girls. In my experience their standards are quite different from the type of women most guys on the site are probably going for. Many of them have some strange habits & such, but I do think they are more likely to go for someone who is a little quirky.

Ultimately, I think it would just be easier to become more outgoing & attractive to all women (which would also increase your success with these women too), but you can probably get by OK as is.

Go to religiously affiliated universities and try to meet women in the library or courtyard. You'd be surprised how easy this is to accomplish. You can also find women in local bookstores or those aweful sites like match or eharmony. Especially women I've talked to who used eharmony tended to be looking for "love" rather than a hookup, which is similar to you it sounds. Good Luck. Should be easy.
 

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crackers444 said:
I am wondering what advice you can give me on finding a girlfriend for a guy like me who is very shy. I am a good looking intelligent guy, who only seems to get recognized for looks and intellect online. The girls I seem to be attracted to either have bf's/lifestyles don't match mine/live far away or I chat with them online and then they don't come online as much(such as girl that I chatted with my internet girlfriend if you may). We chatted constantly online for hours on end and for a few months, then recentley she hasn't been online in almost a month. I sent her a birthday card/postcards/gift card and hasn't responded back yet. We share the same birthday/personality/interests. Any advice would be greatly appreciated regarding my situation!
read the book of Pook: http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/The Book of Pook.pdf
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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