Advice please

[Johnsmith8899]

I met a girl where I live in Florida she lives in Canada. Hooked up and she never stopped texting and pursuing me (it’s been 7 months). I must of hit it right or something bc usually vacation girls are pump and dump. She met me in New York for a wedding and recently spent a week in Florida with me. She eventually wants me to go to canada to meet her friends And family- but I don’t chase girls , only if she comes here again would I consider. I told her i can’t due to work until later towards end of year and she said she wants to try to come to me. She told me she wants to try and move here. Miss her constantly and she hits me up constantly. Tried to tell her i prefer to keep things “open” bc I don’t want to commit from a distance but I really like her so been sticking it out. My goal is to get her here with me as the distance is killing me. Causing me to become less interesred as the headache the distance causes me. Should I give her an ultimatum or just let her come to me .. thinking about breaking it off all together. I’m surprised she hasn’t set a date yet to come see me which makes
Me think she’s unsure but I don’t want to be needy either. Also this girl gets so wet she drips , makes me wonder how she goes without sex as she claims she’s committed . Not sure how she’s so patient .. Thoughts ?

 

[Spaz]

Your story is full of contradictions. On one hand you seem to not care but on the other hand it's "killing" you.

To me, it seems this girl has you by the balls and you don't even know it.

My suggestion; look around your immediate surroundings, I'm sure there's plenty of women around, pick 1 that you notice is observing you then approach and just strike up a conversation, if you like what you see and hear then bring it along further.

You see, women are always sending out covert signals to men they find attractive, all you need is to be observant.

 

[Johnsmith8899]

@Spaz @LARaiders85 @marmel75 @RangerMIke

U guys all give good tips. Did basically what Marmel said. Don’t offer info, do my own thing, etc.

This girl keeps texting me but none of it is about setting a date to come see me or whatever. It’s Labor Day weekend and she should of came this weekend (had no one to watch her dog) . Basically I’m over replying to the nice good morning texts and **** unless she decides to move here I’m not her crutch. She keeps floppping back and forth on whether or not she should move here and all that bullsht meanwhile just a few days visit would of been enough for now. Will simply stop replying turn her off?

Is this too extreme ? Thoughts ?

 

[RangerMIke]

You don't have anything to break off. Nothing is happening because it's a long distance thing. If you want to visit Canada and see her, do it... if that is what you want. If she comes to see you, great make time for her... otherwise you are screwing up your head thinking about her too much. Just keep doing your thing and see other chicks because you have to break out of this infatuation.

I suspect she is really into you and if you told her to move down and you would take care of everything she would do it... and she is waiting to see just how committed you are before she makes that move. But that would be a huge mistake. I suspect that is what is happening.

 

[kbbroiler1971]

Okay my advice. She is chasing you this is why she is attracted to you because you are resisting. Say she moves up here and then see you regularly she will become bored. Women love what they can’t have and this is why you were able to hook up. Next there is no such a thing as a long term relationship so don’t get that idea either. That’s my advice.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Okay my advice. She is chasing you this is why she is attracted to you because you are resisting. Say she moves up here and then see you regularly she will become bored. Women love what they can’t have and this is why you were able to hook up. Next there is no such a thing as a long term relationship so don’t get that idea either. That’s my advice.

You mean there's no such thing as a long distance relationship

 

[kbbroiler1971]

Yep there is no such thing a LTR because think about it. She is hundreds or thousands of miles away. So are you and do you honestly think she is going to be faithful to you and continue you that. LTR’s aren’t real relationships if you are only seeing them once every 3 tor 4 or more months.

 

[Spaz]

Only way for any man to have a long distance LTR is to have one with a dog.

The dog would faithfully await ur return and would enthusiastically wag his tail, rolling on his back at ur return.

Unfortunately women don't have any sense of loyalty to others except to themselves, and their sense of entitlement drives their needs and wants.

So if you wish to pursue further, do so with the knowledge that you'll be in for a lot of unnecessary emotional roller coaster rides.

 

[Tilex]

Your relationship is tricky because she's in another country.
People just don't pick up and leave one country and enter another like it's a flawless task, unless they live inside the European Union.
The US and Canada have strict immigration laws. It's actually more tougher for a Canadian to move to the US than an American to move to Canada.
She can't legally live in the US unless she's sponsored or marries someone.

You can still have fun with her but I'm just pointing out the logistics of her situation and telling you how unlikely the outcome is going to be with her in the long term.