advice please...

[NiceBarn]

Me and this gal have had an up and down relationship to say the least. I did my fair share of beta and her with her share of hot and cold,crazy (that led me here). I feared it was too late, due to my clingyness, when she went the LJBF route. I attempted no contact several times, but she kept coming back.

Before I came here I didn't realize getting involved with coworkers was frowned upon. I tried to avoid her at work and usually by week two or three she sought me out (I think just for validation). This went on for three months or so while I did all the "better myself" stuff like reading the DJ bible, working out more, and getting my mind right.

Well the last few times she's came around we flirt and I'm totally blowing her **** left and right with negs etc.. (Which I never did). She eats it up... I decided to go no contact again on a high note. An entire month went by without us speaking. Although a couple times (about two weeks) she'd do some drive by tickle while I was eating lunch. Didn't stop to talk just to let me know she was still here.

Long story short, she breaks the silence by telling me she got a new job. Wants to tell me goodbye after work. I had to work late. She said lets meet up next week. I did the roosh game via text to a T and had a date set for tomorrow.

After work I get a txt asking to switch to Friday which I can't. What should I do? I'm tired of catering to her. Thanks

 

[Tictac]

Tell her you can't (no additional explanation needed) and tell her to let you know when she's free to get together. If she does, good. If she doesn't, move along.

 

[Fugitive]

She wants you otherwise she wouldn't contact you, the leaving thing is just a convenient excuse to see you.

If you can't do Friday you shouldn't switch it because the minute you do you're letting her know that you want it more than her. If she wants to meet you, seeing as she is the one who suggested it, the least she can do is stick to the original date. If she can't then I guess its cancelled. She'll probably try again once her ego lets her.

 

[NiceBarn]

Thanks fellas. I'm able to switch to Friday, but I'm hesitant to do so. Like you said fugitive, it'd let her know I want it more. It's either gonna be a goodbye and good luck date or I'll let things slowly whither away with a "see ya around," which I don't see happening without effort.

How do people have such an effect on others? Lol