Advice Please Guys!

[jamesjames333]

OK so here goes.

Will try to make this as short as possible. I met this girl randomly one night, invited her out for drinks after work one day. Went really well, negged her all the way. Toward the end of the date, (while we were still in the bar) she had her tongue in down my ear. So naturally i took her home and shagged her. (it was Tuesday). The next day I light heartedly convinced her to take the day off work and we spent the ENTIRE day in my bed, eating pizza and watching The 300 Spartans. (great film!)

Anyway, we continued to flirt on text messaging. Both of us were busy for the next few weeks. Then (about a month later) I ask her out again (next Tuesday), she is really up for it. A couple of days before, I texted to cancel, saying can we rearrange. She says "No problem, but on a more serious note, I really find you fun but would like to meet up just as friends, dont want anything else."

FYI, my reaction to this was (even though I competetly didnt feel this way): "Haha, no worries, that works out great! Think you'd make an awesome friend! Plus things with this girl im seeing have started to get a little serious, and was going to be difficult, so that works out perfectly!"

She replies "Cool. How exciting! Look forward to meeting up."

I have set a date to meet up, and negged/flirted with her since... texted things like, "you are aware when we meet up you will have to stop yourself sticking you tongue down my ear", etc. She replies "Ill see what I can manage ; )"


What the F*ck is going on? Why has she lost interest?! She doesnt know me through any friends, so if she was totally uninterested I assume she would just ignore my messages!

HOW DO I SALVAGE THIS ONE GUYS!? WHAT DO I NEED TO DO?

 

[jamesjames333]

Surley someone here can help!?

 

[daring wraith]

FYI, my reaction to this was (even though I competetly didnt feel this way): "Haha, no worries, that works out great! Think you'd make an awesome friend! Plus things with this girl im seeing have started to get a little serious, and was going to be difficult, so that works out perfectly!"

She replies "Cool. How exciting! Look forward to meeting up."

I have set a date to meet up, and negged/flirted with her since... texted things like, "you are aware when we meet up you will have to stop yourself sticking you tongue down my ear", etc. She replies "Ill see what I can manage ; )"


What the F*ck is going on? Why has she lost interest?! She doesnt know me through any friends, so if she was totally uninterested I assume she would just ignore my messages!

HOW DO I SALVAGE THIS ONE GUYS!? WHAT DO I NEED TO DO?

I can't see the problem, how has she lost interest? Her saying "Ill see what I can manage ; )" isn't a rejection. You're message about being friends and this "other" girl isn't the end of the world, just call or text her and say that you and this "other" girl didn't work out and that you'd like to see her "as friends", then reproduce the first night.

The situation isn't serious as long as she isn't ignoring you.

 

[jamesjames333]

Ok. But if she is still interested, why has she decided in between now and then, that she only whats me as a friend?

P.S. Im pretty sure she isnt just playing me here. i think its genuine.

 

[jamesjames333]

Ok. But if she is still interested, why has she decided in between now and then, that she only whats me as a friend?

P.S. Im pretty sure she isnt just playing me here. i think its genuine.

 

[Acq]

Haha, no worries, that works out great! Think you'd make an awesome friend! Plus things with this girl im seeing have started to get a little serious, and was going to be difficult, so that works out perfectly!"

anyone with brains can see its a fake

 

[slickaz]

dude..dont ever! ever! mention your relationship with another girl when you've just finished tapping one..a gentleman never! tells..

if you say this, make sure she is in the friend zone..
i know you may think by saying that, you've shown that you dont care about her rejecting you..but thats the wrong impression..especially when its NOT TRUE!..women pick thatup easy..

have you read the stuffon here about being mysterious?
keep her guessing..by you telling her you have been seeing someone and the obvious fact that you've s3xed..she'll move even further..

HERES A BIG TIP..DO NOT MENTION "THE OTHER GIRL" WITH HER AGAIN..ONLY IF SHE ASKS YOU DO THE FOLLOWING..only if she asks!!!...

you can save this by doing what the person above said..tell her that thing didnt work out..and that YOU decided to pull the plug because that girl wasnt your type..and leave it at that..dont continue the convo even if she probes..

on the date..act natural..be honest and flirt..give her all the right clues that you want her back in bed..good luck..