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Don Juan
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She=29, me=27. We have been dating for 3 months, roughly. We have never discussed the relationship, other than on day3 when I told her I wasn't looking for anything serious or committed. I have literally not brought the relationship up at all, nor has she (but she is kind of quiet). We see each other maybe 1x every week or two, and always ****. I've been on a total of, oh, I'd say 5 dates with her in 3 months. The day2, the day3, the day4, dinner once, and mini-golf once. All the other times, she calls me (I rarely call her), I invite her to "hang out" and we end up maybe getting some carry out and ****ing like rabbits.
Now, she is my first. I have not told her that, but she was my first **** and my first relationship. So this fact may explain my confusion and inability to know what to do here.
I'm getting a little bored with her, and I want to meet other women. I have some prospects I'm planning day2s with, but I feel a little creepy/underhanded doing it, like I am cheating on this girl. Of course I am not, since we have never discussed exclusivity or ever referred to each other as bf/gf or anything like that. But it still feels like it.
To top if off, she invited me to her birthday party and I met a bunch of her friends who had all "heard so much about me" and were "eager to meet me". I was by far the highest value guy at the birthday party, by the way. Both in looks and personality. If that matters. Meeting her friends made me feel almost bad about the way I am treating her, i.e. just using her for sex. It felt weird that maybe she has talked to her friends about me as a boyfriend or somehting.
I am just so confused. I care about this girl, she is sweet and I have enjoyed her company. But I need to experience other women.
My plan is to continue seeing her a few times a month, never bring up the relationship, never go on dates, and try to feel good about ****ing other women.
Do you have any advice for me.
Now, she is my first. I have not told her that, but she was my first **** and my first relationship. So this fact may explain my confusion and inability to know what to do here.
I'm getting a little bored with her, and I want to meet other women. I have some prospects I'm planning day2s with, but I feel a little creepy/underhanded doing it, like I am cheating on this girl. Of course I am not, since we have never discussed exclusivity or ever referred to each other as bf/gf or anything like that. But it still feels like it.
To top if off, she invited me to her birthday party and I met a bunch of her friends who had all "heard so much about me" and were "eager to meet me". I was by far the highest value guy at the birthday party, by the way. Both in looks and personality. If that matters. Meeting her friends made me feel almost bad about the way I am treating her, i.e. just using her for sex. It felt weird that maybe she has talked to her friends about me as a boyfriend or somehting.
I am just so confused. I care about this girl, she is sweet and I have enjoyed her company. But I need to experience other women.
My plan is to continue seeing her a few times a month, never bring up the relationship, never go on dates, and try to feel good about ****ing other women.
Do you have any advice for me.