Advice on the Socializing more in the classroom with people you dont know...

[Captin Krunch]

Aight...This is something i think alot of high schoolers here on the forum can relate to....

I will start by saying that im a laid back, easy going guy....I used to be way more social with people i didnt know in my class, but it seems like when i got to high school, my frame of mind just changed somehow.....Its like...In some classes if i have one of my GOOD friends that hang around me regularly, im good...im talking to everybody....everybody is talking to me.....but if i get in a class where i know NOBODY...then i sort of alienate myself away from everyone and just chill....

One of my problems is that i care how people percive me...which might not be good..but thats another story someother time lol....soo i dont really say much....i mean if they initiate the convo thenn ill talk to em.....

but i jus need some adivce and tips...like i want to be the guy that can talk to ANNYBODY...how wud i go about doing that?

 

[jeffthechef]

kill your ego first..it's the reason for self-consciousness
you dont need it..it merely exists to make you believe you're alive...i dont want to get too deep into that subject though

it reallyd peends on the degree of your situation..

are you afraid to initiate conversations with people you don't know?

either way, your problem relates to your confidence, or lack of

I'll give you a fact to consider..

All the people in the world don't give a **** about you...You could move/die/etc. and sure...your classmates might cry or be sad for a while...they might have some sort of ceremony to remember you..but in the end, they'll move on...When you're giving a speech during class, no one really cares. Most of the people are thinking about the weekend or what they are doing next.

Now, the people who do care and are paying attention...These people don't make you feel insecure.

So realize that the people who make you feel the most insecure (the popular kids, jocks, hb's, etc.)..these people might judge your they may not..either way, they probably will forget about you a second later. There's really no reason to be insecure. Confidence should come from the inner. The inner built on a moral foundation. If you're kind, nice, a generally good person, what reason do you have to feel inferior? You're most likely basing yourself and others off of superficial things.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Throw yourself in the fire. Just talk to people in your class, force yourself if you have to. You're gonna get psyched out and your heart may be pumping really fast because your body and mind won't believe you've stepped out of your boundaries, but you know what? You'll realize that what you feared in the first place, which is stepping out of your boundaries, isn't such a bad feeling after all. And if you keep on doing this consistently, it'll eventually be integrated into your system. I believe it takes 21 days to create a permanent mindset and habit.

 

[eaglez1177]

Thats all the advice you'll need right there