Advice on tests from women needed

[Hyper2010]

Hi guys worldwide

Bit of advice needed requiring a situation I find myself dealing with.

Been seeing a woman now, she's easily a 7 which she knows, for about 7 weeks and I feel I am being constantly tested by her. She has even mentioned and laughed about other guys in the past who have gone AFC on her and bombarded her with texts on nights out, obsessed over her etc. She also is a manager in sales with 14 guys and has a multitude of orbiters on her Facebook etc.

Normally in the past the above factors would have bothered me, or even worst I would have mentioned it or become jealouswhich has always ended in disaster. Since seeing this particulargirl however, I have made a decision to now allow anything to bother me or at least not show it.

So far I attribute this behaviour to my success with her.

I am however constantly aware that if I did go afc on her or get possessive or upset she would drop me like a stone.

Tomorrow however we are going out for her birthday, with her and her two friends. They are going out early and I'm meeting at about 11 due to other commitments. She is attractive, and as we are not official yet I realise I have no say towards her if she received attention from other guys before I arrive.

If however I get there and she is getting chatted to, flirting, even dancing with other guys what is the best way to behave which maintains her interest nd also my cool?
How would any of you behave? Game plan ideas?

P

 

[LandingWood]

If she's dancing join in with her

If she's flirting flirt with someone but don't let her know that you know she's flirting and act like you don't even know she's there. Make sure she SEES YOU though.

 

[user name]

Hi guys worldwide

Bit of advice needed requiring a situation I find myself dealing with.

Been seeing a woman now, she's easily a 7 which she knows, for about 7 weeks and I feel I am being constantly tested by her. She has even mentioned and laughed about other guys in the past who have gone AFC on her and bombarded her with texts on nights out, obsessed over her etc. She also is a manager in sales with 14 guys and has a multitude of orbiters on her Facebook etc.

Normally in the past the above factors would have bothered me, or even worst I would have mentioned it or become jealouswhich has always ended in disaster. Since seeing this particulargirl however, I have made a decision to now allow anything to bother me or at least not show it.

So far I attribute this behaviour to my success with her.

I am however constantly aware that if I did go afc on her or get possessive or upset she would drop me like a stone.

Tomorrow however we are going out for her birthday, with her and her two friends. They are going out early and I'm meeting at about 11 due to other commitments. She is attractive, and as we are not official yet I realise I have no say towards her if she received attention from other guys before I arrive.

If however I get there and she is getting chatted to, flirting, even dancing with other guys what is the best way to behave which maintains her interest nd also my cool?
How would any of you behave? Game plan ideas?

P

the problem here, it seems to me, is that you already HAVE gone afc on her. she just doesn't know about it. Yet. but it's only a matter of time before she does.

your whole post is coming from the frame of 'what if she drops me'. Well what if she does drop you? so what? if you know that you have the tools and ability to get another woman at the drop of a hat there shouldn't be a problem.

ultimately it doesn't sound like you value yourself or that you value her over yourself and if this is not corrected then this is going to come out in your behaviour, one way or another. more so if alcohol is involved.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I hope you're spinning plates. This post doesn't sound like you are. Its never a question of "passing her tests" its a question of --> Who cares more? Who is more important? Who is making the rules?

YOU ARE MORE IMPORTANT.

When this chick mentioned all the AFC beta fags in her life I would of asked her: "Why are you telling me this? Why would I care about these faggots?"

Imagine you as a man talking about all the women who have come onto you to the girl you're dating. Sounds kind of stupid doesn't it?

Stop analyzing this girl. Your only job is the pound her into a mattress. Just do that and let HER analyze the "relationship". :crackup:

 

[Hyper2010]

"Well what if she does drop you? so what?"

Good point.

Life gives. Life takes

It would have no detremental physical impact whatsoever

Its just a girl

 

[Dgwizdal]

Wrong mentality however passing tests should be handled a la amused mastery and withdrawing attention for bad behavior. She flirts you go flirt with other girls and if you can handle the frame give her a tip or two on pickup while your at it and her panties will be a drippin

 

[VladPatton]

Whatever a girl does to rattle you, never ever loose your frame or your shıt. Always, always maintain level flight and keep your integrity.

Keep this in mind and you'll pass every girl's futile shıt test from now on.

 

[Atom Smasher]

What is the value in even bothering with this girl?

She should be chasing you down, but instead you're trying to "pass" her tests. Why would you even allow yourself to be tested?

We men should not be monkey dancing to the tunes women play. We should be turning the tables and making damn sure it they who are pursuing us.

 

[Skyline]

If however I get there and she is getting chatted to, flirting, even dancing with other guys what is the best way to behave which maintains her interest nd also my cool?
How would any of you behave? Game plan ideas?

I wouldnt care because i would have been already chatting up with mostly everyone there. If she gets flirted on so what? Instead i would be having a blast in my own way. Her "logical words" are getting to you but think about it, if shes getting with AFC's... Then a DJ like you should have no problem. Dont let her words phase you instead listen to her actions!


It seems like shes your only plate and its messing with your head. You're getting all insecure because she told you "ive been with a lot of AFC's." That shouldnt or ever phase you. You're better than her, try and jam that mindset in your head.

Shes either interested or not, if she begins to give you mixed signals you simply walk because you're ABOVE THAT. And talk to other girls in the mean time, none of this insecurity would happen if you had more than one option.

 

[Hyper2010]

Hi guys thanks for the replies

As an update on situation...

Went out and everything went fine, but she had pretty severe PMT and wasn't able to put out.

Pretty sure the following events were a s*** test....

Both lying naked in bed this morning, I make a move after a bit of kissing/cuddling and she says `no`. I asked her why and her response was `i wanted to sre how youd react`

I back off and don't respond, just resumed normal cuddling. A few mins later, she comes on hot and heavy and just as I'm about to go in i get `No i dont want sex`. I asked if I was hurting her and she just said she was due on and her stomach, boobs etc was hurting and she didn't want to get rammed.

Again I back off and act cool and completely unphased.


She says `Are you angry now?` I respond with, I'm not really bothered either way and resume smoking my electronic cigarette

Was this some kind of test to see if I was just interested in sex or what? Did I react in the best way or not?

P

 

[betheman]

Hi guys thanks for the replies

As an update on situation...

Went out and everything went fine, but she had pretty severe PMT and wasn't able to put out.

Pretty sure the following events were a s*** test....

Both lying naked in bed this morning, I make a move after a bit of kissing/cuddling and she says `no`. I asked her why and her response was `i wanted to sre how youd react`

I back off and don't respond, just resumed normal cuddling. A few mins later, she comes on hot and heavy and just as I'm about to go in i get `No i dont want sex`. I asked if I was hurting her and she just said she was due on and her stomach, boobs etc was hurting and she didn't want to get rammed.

Again I back off and act cool and completely unphased.


She says `Are you angry now?` I respond with, I'm not really bothered either way and resume smoking my electronic cigarette

Was this some kind of test to see if I was just interested in sex or what? Did I react in the best way or not?

P

she sounds like a cluster fvck, why are you even bothering? whats in this for you?

 

[Skyline]

It sounds as if guys had gotten angry with her in the past when she rejected them from sex. The "i was seeing how you would react" gave it away. You acted with indifference, according to what you said, so yes i think you handled it well.

If this happens again and you encounter this same resistance after the first two attempts then dont try and fvck her the third time. Just keep up the foreplay or whatever you're doing until SHE wants it. Maybe even tease her a bit.

Some say this puts the ball in her court, but if you like licking and feeling her up then it benefits you plus she will break eventually.

 

[Hyper2010]

I just can't understand why she had to wait until I was naked on top of her before she told me that

On the outside I was indifferent, on the inside I was rippin