Advice on situation

[Magnatolia]

Hi All,

I'm not very confident and have been trying to do the confident stare exercise (stare for a couple of seconds after they look away) but not too many successes as most people don't pay attention to what's going on around them.

Today, though there were these too reasonably attractive girls walking past me and I stared at one who looked at me as she walked past. I was about to look elsewhere after they'd gone past then I noticed she said something to her friend who turned around and scanned the area behind her before her eyes settled on me. She turned back to her friend and I noticed her friend was giggling.

Later on I was at the train station of the shopping centre I'd seen the two girls above at and the second one stared at me and had a big grin on her face.

I didn't actually make a move because they were too young for my liking (I probably wouldn't have made a move anyway).

I just wanted some advice on whether this was actual interest or 'oh my god there's some guy checking us out'?

Thanks

 

[Captain Popular]

i like to make initial eye contacat and then look em up and down then smile.....you have to practice this in order to not be so scared to make eye contact with strangers but once you get it down, you will increase you confidence and be able to then approach the once that smile back and not worry about the ones that dont even crack a smirk (**** em)

good luck
peace,
Mr. Larry

 

[Magnatolia]

Thanks for the reply Captain Popular. Yeah, I'm starting to push my boundaries step by step.

When you do want to make eye contact with an attractive woman, is there any special way of getting there attention or do you just wait until someone looks at you then return the look?

Also, in the situation I described, would that be a positive response (if they were in my age range) to walk up and introduce my self)?

Thanks

 

[Captain Popular]

Thanks for the reply Captain Popular. Yeah, I'm starting to push my boundaries step by step.
*Good*

When you do want to make eye contact with an attractive woman, is there any special way of getting there attention or do you just wait until someone looks at you then return the look?
*not any real special ways to get their attention other than having a nice attitude, like you can tell when someone is a confident person, females feed off of this and thats what attracts them, making good eye contact is a good sign of this and if you use the 3 second rule, you should have no problem increasing your success..ps. dont approach a girl if she gives you no response...prolly has a man or is a total *****, i mean it's possible but most likely settig yourself up for rejection.

Also, in the situation I described, would that be a positive response (if they were in my age range) to walk up and introduce my self)?
*yes of course, they're not gunna do it, so you must, try to not exceed 3 seconds or you will just be hurting your chances. a few seconds could mean getting the number or not.
Good Luck
Mr. Larry

 

[Magnatolia]

I'm aware of the three second rule, but what happens if they're walking past and they're too far away to actually get to them within three seconds.

Is it a good idea to motion them with your hand. So when they give off a positive signal - smile, etc - do a 'come here' motion with your hand?

Someone said you need to be experienced to do this sort of thing. Is that true? To me it shows that you're confident and that you're not going to be clingy or desperate.

Thanks

 

[Captain Popular]

I'm aware of the three second rule, but what happens if they're walking past and they're too far away to actually get to them within three seconds.
*No, it means to at least start making your move within the time not get to them in 3 seconds.

Is it a good idea to motion them with your hand. So when they give off a positive signal - smile, etc - do a 'come here' motion with your hand?
*Hmm, hopefuly you're not to far, i usually do not approach women that are not in a good distance to say something to them...but hey man, what can it hurt? What if she says no? you're not gunna die are you? dont worry about it, dont feel like a loser and just realize women are weird. so try it and make sure though you give off that vibe.

Someone said you need to be experienced to do this sort of thing. Is that true? To me it shows that you're confident and that you're not going to be clingy or desperate.
*if expireienced means confident then yes...but if you try for the 1st time with a MAN attitude then success is highly possible. so that guy is wrong and right. Do it but please dont be scared to fail, i mean she's never gunna see you again and when you succeed you will feel good and forget all the failed attempts.

Mr. Larry