Advice on Sex

[DJinTraining06]

Nobody said it would be easy, but do you really see any other way? Don't have such a defeatist attitude. You sound like an abused spouse, not wanting to leave because maybe you'll never do better, maybe you can't. Do you really think this is all you deserve? I can see why you guys don't have chemistry anymore, she owns you. You can and will do better, but the first step is breaking this thing off.

If she brought up marriage again to my face, I would just bombard with all of my gripes at once and then break it off. You're basically married already, you just don't have the actual contract yet (thank god). At first I didn't understand why she'd be happy with this and want to actually get married, but then I figured she's happy to have you completely under your thumb. She can get her sexual gratification somewhere else, from someone she actually has desire to do so with.

So your options are breaking up, or staying with a woman who will continue to get fatter and not have sex with you. You know what happens when you get married? You get tired of asking her for sex and just give up. That combines with the fact that she's gained so much weight that you don't really even want to anymore. Maybe that's what she's going for. Then you finally get a divorce and pay her an alimony check every month and she loses all the weight so she can get other men again, and looks better than she ever has, but that won't help you. You've already wasted years of your life, and now you're paying the price (financially and otherwise).

Which one sounds better to you?

Well no sustained change at all yet, she had sex with me a couple saturdays ago and i guess she thoiught that was enough. So now for like a week ive been cold distant, and not payign much attention to her, no calls at wpork i barely answer her texts. Im not mean just very very distant. And now shes gettin all worried, shes overtexting me and sayin ncie thigns she normally doesn't. But now i may have gone too heavy on it cuz now she texted me and asked me if soemthing has been bothering me cuz ive seemed down the past week or so. I dont wanna asnwer her text but i kinda have to cuz then shes gonna ask why id dint answer it. I wanna make her sweat. Until i get my 2-3 times sex per week on average i will keep this act up. Ifr the sex increases ill get less cold and be nice again but a different kind of nice. im gonna see if i can get her in the palm of my hand again like when we first met. Otherwise ill follow all ur advice and dump her.