advice on sex needed

[ocbeachbum]

Hello,

Due to my recent success with women, ive only been with 2 girls so far. Ive met a girl that i really like and we have been dating for a month. She really wants to have sex. Ive been putting it off saying it was too soon but this past weekend we were very close. After about 4 hours of fooling around, we were about too and then I told her I have limited experience and Im just nervous. Well that pretty much killed my mood. After that, we tried again later and I couldnt get it up because i was thinking about it too much and was just too nervous. I dont wanna suck and then lose her ya know?

Do you guys know any tricks that could help me not be nervous? The only thing I can think of is next time is to just go for it as soon as I get hard in the beginning.

 

[pressure0354]

Hmm

Hey

Don't be so nervous, relax. Its pretty hard to suck at sex, and even if you suck, it still feels great for the both of you. Just let things flow as they may, and don't think about the end result. I am probably only slightly better than the first few times I've had sex. Use your god given man instincts and thats it - no thinking involved. I am sure the following replies will be similiar in advice.

Rub your D*ck on her vag for a little before you enter her. Drives my gf crazy.

 

[unorthodox]

Watch porno man, to get ideas on what to do.

 

[sexy_kuta]

Watch porno man, to get ideas on what to do.

lol that made me chuckle haha

 

[zerocelcius]

The best advice comes from way back, from the Beatles!!

"Let it be." Let it happen natural and do what comes natural. You will be fine! Practice makes perfect. Don't sweet the small stuff, and it's all the small stuff.

 

[Zebedee]

My advice rotate your hips in a grinding motion while ****ing, always finger the front wall of the ***** about an inch up as this is where the g spot is, also during sex gently stroke her ****oris and during sex kiss her neck and caress her. Before sex give her a massage as this will get her relaxed and in the mood. Also when your about to *** try to hold it for a few seconds to maximise penetration.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

..Do you guys know any tricks that could help me not be nervous? The only thing I can think of is next time is to just go for it as soon as I get hard in the beginning.

First and foremost, there's not really a need to tell the woman about your sexual prowess. Yeah, she'll be able to tell but women tend to be forgiving. The problem is that you are creating your own buzz kill not only by worrying about it, but by actually vocalizing it. It hits you even harder psychologically when you say it out loud.

So what exactly are you worried about anyway? Do you not know the mechanics of the act or is it something else? Also, I wouldn't use a typical porno as a guide either. They're geared for a man's pleasure and women don't really get much excitement if you follow the formula of a standard porno. You'd be better off watching something that is a little more geared toward women like girl on girl erotica (soft porn).

 

[donjuanjovi]

In the words of nike, "just do it".

 

[cefiro]

Just remember, sex is suppose to be fun.....girls love it and guys love it. Just focus on having a good time!

 

[everywomanshero]

Yea being too nervous can make you limp. cold weather works against you too. I remember once I had been walking around in the Netherlands for a couple of days before I managed to PU a chick. Between being so freaking nervous (I really wanted to score with someone non-Norte Americana) and my balls being frozen, I couldn't get it up.

Things that have helped me: A more relaxed lifestyle(better job, meditation, letting the worries go), working out regularly (especially cardio), and avoiding the cold (I'd rather live somewhere warm anyway).

I have looked at some educational tapes but most of them were crap. I had Nina Hartling (or something like that)'s video on making love to women. It was OK but camera angles and instruction were kind of poor. She did cover some big picture stuff, at least. It's also no good for watching with women since it poors them. Better sex video (again, something to that affect) was kind of better on some verbal instruction but camera angles, lighting, etc were still poor and there was lots of fluff time. Sexsational secrets is an OK book with some good tips, but it's not solid gold and some of the instruction might be too difficult to follow at this point. Some of the guides online are 'OK' but still not great for explaining this to newbies.