I just met a girl from AOL about 3 weeks ago in person and i need advice on how to treat her. I'm 24 and shes 19, we talkd online for months, and she flaked me everytime when it was time to meet, but she was fun to talk to when I was bored, so I kept in contact, and one day she actually came. She took naked pics for me online before I met her, so the first time she came, I got her shirt off, and the second time, we had sex and she gave me head. The thing is shes very weird and kind of immature, she says noo or wateva to most of the things I say, covers her face with her hands sometime, and will say noooo then do what I say 5 seconds later sometime. The thing is I'm a very good looking tall guy, but I'm very socially anxious and awkward, so I've been in a big rut the past few months, and it feels good having her around. I can be myself fully around wierd silly girls.. I'm pretty weird and like weird things and can express this part of myself around her. We kiss a lot but she stops me from having sex sometime but sometime she goes with it if I keep trying, so I dont take her nos as real no's sometime since shes wierd. My question is, where should I take this. she's been coming over like 2x a week and comes wenever I tell her too. I'm starting to like her partly because shes fun and I can be myself around her but I dont know if shes really gf material and my friends said she isnt. How do you think I should handle this one. I have a lot of girls from the past who like me still but I've been too nervous and in a rut to make a move to see them.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Advice on how to treat this new girl
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Whats the problem with her? Just because she says wateva and nooo a lot? Or just because she covers har face with her hands sometimes?
Why your friends tell you that she isnt GF material?
I think its too soon, only 3 weeks, you dont know much about her personality and patterns, keep seeing her and pay attention to her behaviour, also try to meet some other girls during this proccess.
Why your friends tell you that she isnt GF material?
I think its too soon, only 3 weeks, you dont know much about her personality and patterns, keep seeing her and pay attention to her behaviour, also try to meet some other girls during this proccess.
well shes cool and I like her, but the issue is that I'm comin from a position of having an inner void that Im kind of using a womans approval to fill. I was in a relationsihp with a girl for a year where she was silly and liked my wierd antics, but she grew tired of it and dumped me, and since then I've drifted into a place of being a loner and more anxious. This is the first time in 2 years that I've found a girl that i can be my crazy self with, but I dont know if its goood to go down that path again or if I need to really change
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Well,you need to fix this.....and soon. Once your girl gets wind of this "inner void" of yours,trust me,you'll know it because her behavior will start to change. First,any sex/intimacy will die off. Then whenever you make plans for the two of you to get together and hang out,she'll start flaking like crazy with excuse after excuse....and the reasons for the flaking will make no sense whatsoever. Fix this,or the relationship is doomed. And it won't be the girl who ends it,it'll be your void/insecurity that destroys it.Dman101 said:well shes cool and I like her, but the issue is that I'm comin from a position of having an inner void that Im kind of using a womans approval to fill.
Ok,question here:What exactly do you mean by "weird antics" and you being your "crazy self"? What do you mean by these things? What is it that you do or say.....and more importantly,why? Why do you do these things?Dman101 said:I was in a relationsihp with a girl for a year where she was silly and liked my wierd antics, but she grew tired of it and dumped me, and since then I've drifted into a place of being a loner and more anxious. This is the first time in 2 years that I've found a girl that i can be my crazy self with, but I dont know if its goood to go down that path again or if I need to really change
well basically, I'm sort of an outsider at work and in life, so I dont relate to most ppl and I'm considered shy and very weird by most. I dont have normal converstations, but sometiem when i find the right girl who I feel comfortable with, I'm ****y and funny and just sillly. I make fun of them and talk a lot of **** in a way that I cant talk to regular ppl, and just show her weeird ppl that i like such as mike tyson and other offensive ppl. I'm pretty much a weirdo now and I dnt know if its bettr to just get the girls who go along with it or if I should work on improviing myself, but I dont know what I can do
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Keep her around. It shouldn't matter if your friends think she's gf material, what matters is if you think she's gf material. Has she brought up the "relationship" convo? If not, make sure she's the one that does not you.
It also sounds like you need to get your house in order. Your happiness should not be dependant upon any woman. Build your personal confidence by doing things that make you happy. Work out, pick up a hobby, etc.
It also sounds like you need to get your house in order. Your happiness should not be dependant upon any woman. Build your personal confidence by doing things that make you happy. Work out, pick up a hobby, etc.
playerone
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You just need to go out there and know more people, make new friends, socialise. Hang out with normal people, and you'll slowly grow to be normal. It's up to you if you want to change your habits. Well, i prop you for admitting the fact that you're a weirdo. Good luck.