Advice on how to help out a friend

[AlphaGhost]

Sup guys,

I have a friend who I've known since 9th grade. So we've known each other over 11 years. In highschool I think we became good friends because we both has similar personalities. Both were shy, to ourselves, video games...basically we weren't in the cool crew. As time progressed we was like brothers and we had similars views on how we wanted our futures to go.

Well I began living life more and finding myself so I began going out, being social, fvcking chicks and dating, partying, living life pretty much. He stayed to his HS ways and stayed home doesnt pursure chicks, doesnt work, isnt in school, he has no drive whats so ever..

Ive been trying to get him to see the light and recognize his golden years are slipping away but he just doesnt seem to care. He seems completely contect living his life thru others.

Its blows my mind how some one can just have absoletely no drive and I KNOW HE IS A SMART GUY and can be doing wayyyy better.

I find myself losing him as a friend and sorta looking down on him cause I'm at a point in my life where I'm constantly pushing and trying new things and I have goals I wanna accomplish. I don't want to lose him as a friend but it seems like thats slowly happening.

I think he is just afraid of taking chances or doing something he isn't to familiar with, but thats the whole point to life...

How can I get him to push himself to do something... we are 25 and 30 is approaching quick! lol...

And I know and also believe in "you can't help someone who doesn't wanna help themselves" but, this is a real close friend of mine, closer than a brother thats why this bothers me seeing him waste his life doing nothing...

 

[backseatjuan]

Why don't you take him out and party with him.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

If he is happy being at home and chilling why are you so worried about him. Some people change some people don't. You changed and he didn't. So why force him to go out and do the same things as you. It doesn't work like that. He is going to do what he wants to do. If you want to influence him to do something then you need to influence him to get a job and get out of his parents house. Not to go out and screw females. You gotta take stepping stones.

 

[foreverAFC]

Sup guys,

I have a friend who I've known since 9th grade. So we've known each other over 11 years. In highschool I think we became good friends because we both has similar personalities. Both were shy, to ourselves, video games...basically we weren't in the cool crew. As time progressed we was like brothers and we had similars views on how we wanted our futures to go.

Well I began living life more and finding myself so I began going out, being social, fvcking chicks and dating, partying, living life pretty much. He stayed to his HS ways and stayed home doesnt pursure chicks, doesnt work, isnt in school, he has no drive whats so ever..

Ive been trying to get him to see the light and recognize his golden years are slipping away but he just doesnt seem to care. He seems completely contect living his life thru others.

Its blows my mind how some one can just have absoletely no drive and I KNOW HE IS A SMART GUY and can be doing wayyyy better.

I find myself losing him as a friend and sorta looking down on him cause I'm at a point in my life where I'm constantly pushing and trying new things and I have goals I wanna accomplish. I don't want to lose him as a friend but it seems like thats slowly happening.

I think he is just afraid of taking chances or doing something he isn't to familiar with, but thats the whole point to life...

How can I get him to push himself to do something... we are 25 and 30 is approaching quick! lol...

And I know and also believe in "you can't help someone who doesn't wanna help themselves" but, this is a real close friend of mine, closer than a brother thats why this bothers me seeing him waste his life doing nothing...

i was in the same situation, and i just stopped hanging out with the guy. all he wanted to do was play world of warcraft by himself. i tried to get him to go to the gym with me, tried to get him to go on cool trips and parties etc....he just wanted to shut out the world and play world of warcraft, so i moved on. i just work and spend my free time lifting weights and practicing jiu jitsu. that guy now has a kid and works for 10 dollars an hour under the table at some pizza place, and his wife and kid and his mom all live with him in a one bedroom apartment. you cant help anyone who doesnt want to help themself.

" if you dont train then i dont even want to hang out with you "

 

[AlphaGhost]

If he is happy being at home and chilling why are you so worried about him. Some people change some people don't. You changed and he didn't. So why force him to go out and do the same things as you. It doesn't work like that. He is going to do what he wants to do. If you want to influence him to do something then you need to influence him to get a job and get out of his parents house. Not to go out and screw females. You gotta take stepping stones.

I'm not asking him to party all day and fvck bishes.

I just want him to stop wasting away his life doing nothing!
Why am I so worried? Cause that a close friend of mine and I don't feel right no saying anything.

I spoke with him yesterday and told him that he has way to much potential to be living his life the way he is now, told him I will stop bringing it up because I feel like im annoying him, he said it isnt like that and how he is planning to do some ****, I left it at that because I can't keep trying.