"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Advice on how to break it off with style?

Aengus

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Dear DJ's,

I'm long-time reader but first time poster --looking for advice on how to end affairs, and even run multiple affairs at the same time without the women getting hurt.

I feel its karmically good to have very positive affairs with women, where your relationship has been as good an experience for them as it was for you: where the memory of this emotionally powerful affair with the DJ is a great romantic fantasy that they keep with them.

So, how do you end it with them in a very positive way (especially if you've used your best DJ kung-fu when you were building the attraction, which has made the affair very emotionally intense) and if it's someone you want to remain friends with-- how do you play your game so that she's still attracted to you, has very positive feelings about you, but isn't stalky about restarting the romantic/sexual realtionship?


Aengus
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Break up with them on the phone, and advise them, that there is someone else.
 

Sugar Bee

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Why not just be honest and tell them that you want to let go of the affair relationship but want to retain a relationship with them as you feel that she is an important part of your life that you do not want to see vanish.

This would be in person.
 
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I had the perfect smoothest "break-up" technique!

I can't find it in another thread I responded to a few weeks ago -- anybody remeber it - it had to do with the baseball umpire outfit - can any body find it?
 

Luscious

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
I had the perfect smoothest "break-up" technique!

I can't find it in another thread I responded to a few weeks ago -- anybody remeber it - it had to do with the baseball umpire outfit - can any body find it?
Dude, I don't even wanna know...:D


But in all seriousness, if you're breaking it off with a girl, you don't need to make it classy. Just get the business done and over with and move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks for the advice guys, but I'm not sure I agree with you-- I think I might not have articulated things well enough in my post.

I'm sure you guys understand that once your DJ skills start coming up to scratch, there is a mindset/attitude that lets women come to you, and there's a mindset/attitude that keeps them. There must also be a way to leave like a master Don Juan.

True-- you don't -need- to break up that way-- but the key to the whole game (for me at least) seems to be knowing what you want-- and I want to learn this, mainly because it fits into my concept of my reality. I bet there would also be real rewards to this strategy. Having a large number of ex-girlfriends who really still like you, say fantastic things about you to their friends, still find you *very* sexually attractive, and you still socialise with----

Think about it-you should be able to imagine the incredible opportunites this willl afford.
 
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