Advice on her phone calls

[ArrowheadDan]

Hey Guys,

Ive been talking to a girl for a little while now. She's 20. She lives far away so we end up talking on the phone a lot. It started as once a week, then twice etc. Then grew to be where she now calls me everyday, sometimes several times a day. We never get tired of talking and there is no awkwardness.

Popular advice is not to be available to girls and not answer every call but since we don't get to see each other much, I always jump at the chance to talk to her. And since its always her calling me, I saw that as high interest from her and felt like I wasn't chasing so it wasn't bad. She often says that she needs to talk everyday to me and that I'm so important to her.

However, now she has not been calling for the past few days and its really hitting me hard. I feel like I have become dependent on her calling me and when i don't hear from her, I really get upset. Not hearing from her has been effecting me all around, my attitude, my sleep, my emotions etc. I know she is getting attention from a lot of other guys so maybe she just is talking to someone else. But it all changed so abruptly, Im wondering if i did something wrong. In the past on rare occasions when Ive tried calling her, she doesn't pick up and it takes her a bit to call back. I don't want to play a fool and do that if i can help it.

Im a very good conversationalist and I'm really funny so I don't think she was getting bored. I know it sounds like I'm overreacting and being beta but Im just being honest. Im wondering what to do now. Should I just do no contact and see if she hits me back up? Should I just let it die because its has taken on too much importance to me? Please help a brother out. thank you

 

[n52]

It won't hurt to call her once in awhile HOWEVER, if you've called her and she hasn't picked up and hasn't returned your call do not start phoning her back every single day. leave it for a good few days and try again, if nothing assume lost interest.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Sometimes females need the Guy to take initiative. SOMETIMES
Seems to me she she said " Gee, I always call him, I wonder if he ever will"
And this **** test began.

Or she could be very busy.



Fvcking other people.

Joking... haha

But as N52 said, call her. After that she should continue her regular pattern.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Hey Guys,

Ive been talking to a girl for a little while now. She's 20. She lives far away so we end up talking on the phone a lot.

Rex stop reading at ^^^^. What constitutes, "far?"

 

[DragonBlood]

However, now she has not been calling for the past few days and its really hitting me hard. I feel like I have become dependent on her [...]

I know she is getting attention from a lot of other guys so maybe she just is talking to someone else. But it all changed so abruptly, Im wondering if i did something wrong.[

Yeah, you havent kissed her yet. Thats a BIG ONE. As Rex points outs distance is not in your favour.

 

[Greasy Pig]

She's met someone else. Deal with it, move on. If she contacts you, be unavailable. By doing that, you're merely returning the favour.

 

[Nickface]

We need to find out how "far" far really is? I think you got to the point where calling became too much of an importance in both of your lives that anything less will disappoint the both of you. You started way too high. That being said, if you can somehow meet her, it could work. Not sure what your situation is(if it's possible to travel) but call her one last time and tell her(or leave voicemail) that your making your way towards her and make time to meet up!

It's drastic but it's plausible if you want something out of this...