Advice On Getting Her Back...Or Not?

[Dropt03Ranger]

ok I'm new here...i've been down in the dumps and a friend told me about this site...here is my siuation...

i have been with this girl...who is younger then me...for 2 years now...we got engaged at the beginning of december and everything seemed to be going great...well before we even got engaged we had our fights...big and little...we had broken up before but for like a day basically then i told her i would change and she believed me and took me back...well the other day i moved into her house...everything seemed ok...i had doubts about her lately because she started to hang with a friend of hers who was engaged but broke it off cause her man cheated on her so shes an angry person when it comes to couples now...so shes been hanging out with her a whole lot lately and i admit i have been smothering...i would call her a lot when she was out and text message her which is smothering and i admit that...i have called her names in the past out of anger during a fight...which her dad(who died before we met...a few months prior) used to call her names when he was drunk etc...so it hurts her when i do it...also she has been taken advantage of by 2 guys in the past...so shes not very sexual and gets mad if i touch her too much...

well...i always would tell her im going to stop calling her names and let her have her own time...and i failed to do either...so like 3 days after i moved in i told her we needed to talk...i felt like no affection was being shown anymore...thats when she says she doesnt know if she still loves me and she needs to experience other guys maybe to make sure she wants to be with me forever...i agree with that to a point but also think its kinda weird...i know shes young and all but come on...dont get engaged if you are not 100% sure...so i have been giving her space for the 3-4 days we have been broken up...she will randomly call me though to say hello or ask me what i'm doing...what im curious of is if that is a sign that she wants me still or that she just doesnt want to hurt me?? i love this girl with all my heart and truely want to be with her...i just dont know how to make her see that this time i will stop the name calling...i will stop any jealousy i had which wasnt much...i will stop trying to do stuff with her if its not wanted...i dont know how to make her see that...

im very scared of getting a call from her saying she never wants me back...we are broken up but i told her to let me know when she decides if she still loves me and wants to be with me again...what do i do in the mean time if she calls or whatnot...i have yet to be the one to call her...she was with her friends the last two days and she was the one who called me each time we talked or sent me the text messages...

sorry for the long message...im just confused and just want to know how to get her back...

 

[Mr.Fortesque]

I am bit confused from this info. If I understood this story right, then I think the best advice is to next her, isn't it?
For sure, U should probably wait for other replies.

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

basically she dumped me cause of our fights all the time...me calling her names before...and other stuff...saying she wants to date other people to make sure this is what she wants...cause she is young...im not sure if i should contact her...try to date people myself(im horrible with women) or what to do...

i love her with all my heart and wish we could be engaged again...its just so hard to sit around wondering if shes with someone or what shes doing...im even having dreams of her with other dudes and stuff...i cant get her outta my mind...im so lost

im also wanting to know that if she is the one who keeps randomly calling me and starting the talks...does that mean she is still interested or what does it mean if anything??

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

i just talked to her and she met a 23 yr old...WAY older then her and she says hes nice and they are going to hang out as friends...but if stuff happens it happens...i cant handle this...this sucks so bad

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

If I had a penny everytime this came up...

You are not in love with her,
you are in love with the misguided notion of her that exists only in your mind.
Next her and get on with your manhood already.

It sounds like she got on with her life,
so why are you wasting yours?

NEXT!

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

i want to try and move on...but its just so hard...my heart was broken

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

Hearts were made to be broken, brother.

Trust me, move on~

 

[LostbutFound]

well basically the way I see, she was looking for a man and shes found one....let me explain..

You said the guy she met is way older and hes 23, so what age are you guys, about 18 or something?? just curious because i didnt see you state it....anyway, the whole name calling thing you were doing, was just dumb and childish....

Second, if she is very young, how the hell are you guys even thinking of getting engaged....again, knowing the age would help us out...

It seems like this...first off, i wouldnt worry about the 23 year old guy too much...my guess is that she saw a guy who is older, so she thinks hes much more mature and more of a man to give her problems and call her names...i must admit the name calling thing was a real mistake...

If you really love this girl, then go for it and try to get her back...BUT before you do that, you gotta change yourself and become a man....stop the name calling and show her that you can be a man...thats what shes looking for now, and thats why she with a 23 year old....

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

well i talked to her and its basically over for good...the name calling was stuff like ***** and stuff when we were fighting...nothing else...but oh well...i am 20 shes 17...engaged = stupid anyways...oh well i guess....time to try to move on...thanks for the help guys

 

[am4591]

If she's not very sexual and didn't much like you touching her, you're better off without her. It's a good thing you didn't marry her. You can do a lot better.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Drop - this girl is trouble!!!! You do not want to marry her for your own good - trust me.

First off, this chick was seeing other dudes already before she told you. When girls are hanging around other girls and not you, this means she fvcking around with other dudes! She did not 'just' meet this 23 y/o yesterday, it has been a while.

When you state that two other guys took advantage of her - did you mean rape??? If it wasn't rape, then your girl is hoing and she is a ho and you were just the next pimp in line!!

Quit trying to make her sound innocent - let me guess what names you called this girl, hhhmmmm could it be 'hor' hor' hor'? Like her daddy called her?? When you call a woman a hor she becomes cold and unaffectinate, because her true self is displayed - you are no longer her favorite pimp!

She didn't like u touching her, because she already was on another dude's penis!

'IF' her dad called her this name then I got news for you, she is a ho and has always been!!! Daddy's know best!

If what I surmised is true, then this a blessed day for you - REJOICE!!!!


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[Dropt03Ranger]

nah shes not a ho...and she wasnt raped...just very drunk and stupid before me i guess....i agree that she didnt just meet this guy...she says he is very sweet and so nice...i told her a 23 yr old talks to a 17 yr old for one reason...*****...but we wont ever be back together so its time for me to move on i guess...i need a girl who isnt a prude and doesnt complaign about every single thing

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Let's see, she was on 3 guys jocks, now four, and she is only 17! AND YOU CALL HER A PRUDE???? Huh?? You know that she screwed 4 guys (3 + current pimp) that you know of, plus others that you don't know about, and she is a prude???

Quit making excuses for her, "she was drunk and stupid" - this is even worse than I thought! She is a drunken stupid hor!

Did you ever consider the thought that she likes the way a penis feels inside her and she got to have it??

She is far from a prude -she didn't want to have sex with you at times because she was on another dude's jock! Have you ever considered this?

And tell me what name did her daddy call the little princess, and what did you call her? Was it 'hor'??

Quit treating these hors like princesses and recognize them for what they are!! Sorry to talk about your girl, but I don't like it when men are blinded by obvious ill actions of a woman and then brush her actions aside as if they are of no consequence!

Know who you are with and there will be no surprises!!

 

[CLOONEY]

Man this is tough. I know how bad u would feel. But u gotta just move on, you are so young, no need to get stuck with one woman for the next 80 years without first experiencing other girls.

 

[WaterTiger]

DROP HER! First of all she's UNDER AGE! I'm not sure what the age of concent is in Texas, but if it's 18, then YOU can get arrested as a child molester.

Secondly, 20 is way, way too young to get married. Enjoy your life a while, go date other women, travel, go to college! Don't get locked into a marriage with an immature girl and a house full of screaming brats. Fly...be free!

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

Originally posted by WaterTiger
DROP HER! First of all she's UNDER AGE! I'm not sure what the age of concent is in Texas, but if it's 18, then YOU can get arrested as a child molester.

Secondly, 20 is way, way too young to get married. Enjoy your life a while, go date other women, travel, go to college! Don't get locked into a marriage with an immature girl and a house full of screaming brats. Fly...be free!

17 is fine..and we had parental consent...but yeah i guess its time to move on...i started talking to someone but she lives kinda far...and its just not the same...i compare her to my ex...if only this **** was easy...i wish she would of told me all this **** when she first felt that she didnt want to be with me...she says its been a while but she didnt want to hurt me...which pisses me off...but oh well...whats done is done...

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

her best friend is now mad at her because this 23 yr old loser wants to hang out with her alone at his place and thinks if she brought her friend it would be awkward...if she is that nieve then she deserves what she gets...me and her best friend are both very annoyed that she is being so dumb...but whatever

 

[dietzcoi]

PRL is dead on here.

Snap out of it... this is pathetic...

She is just a young girl/ho who is screwy in the head, and you want to MARRY her at age 20?

You need a psychologist!

Stop thinking about her. Move on. Now.

God, I wished my current self could have given my 20 year old self this kind of advice! You better realise what you are getting here... priceless assistance!

Go, and live. You can do it!

Dietzcoi

 

[Dropt03Ranger]

yeah i am going to move on...gonna take a while but i will...when she finds that this guy is a loser and wants to crawl back to me im gonna tell her to go away

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Dropt03Ranger
...i wish she would of told me all this **** when she first felt that she didnt want to be with me...she says its been a while but she didnt want to hurt me...which pisses me off...but oh well...whats done is done...

Yes, as I said, she played you while she was seeing you. Do you get this! I wonder how I knew that? I know the ho mindset, that's why!! Hors start screwing other guys way before she tells the guy it’s over! Didn’t want to hurt you??? What the hell?? Now you should be really be hurt and extremely pissed – she was screwing other dudes while she was with you – everyone knew (her girlfriends), except you!!!! This makes you look a supplication chump!

Originally posted by Dropt03Ranger
…this 23 yr old loser wants to hang out with her alone.....if she is that nieve then she deserves what she gets...me and her best friend are both very annoyed that she is being so dumb...but whatever

Drop – here you go again!!!! Why do you make this ho out to be so naïve and innocent??? As if she doesn’t know what she is doing! She is a player!!! It’s because you are blinded by your lusts and want for her. Just because you were engaged and supposedly loved her doesn’t make her better than what she is!! Take your rose colored glasses off and see her for what she is.

DROP, WAKE UP - THE MATRIX HAS YOU!!!!

As long as you keep thinking that these hos are innocent little naïve princesses, you are going to get played and burned!!!!!!!! See reality for what it is!!!

I’m not trying to be harsh, just being real! Thank your lucky stars that you didn't marry this girl!!