Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gentle men, I met this younger woman from Spain. She has been here 5 years and has a three year old. Any advice on how to deal with her? She has commented on how she dislikes the indecisiveness of the average American male.
My instincts tell me to really alpha up and be a charismatic leader. Thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Her culture is less PC so the men there aren't as afraid to express themselves for fear of losing their livelihood/ reputation/ wealth and getting in legal trouble. I've never dated a Spanish girl but have heard that the women from Mediterranean Europe are known to play much harder to get. Its why so many of the Spanish and Italian guys like to come up north or go for the blond girls visiting their country on holiday.
 

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I would say ignore her, since she have a kid, but since you want to risk it....

they want you to pursue, tehy will play hard to get a lot and you will ahve to deal with they family if things get serious, other then that will depend on how she really is, but the universal rules here are still up, ask her out and escalate
 

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I would say ignore her, since she have a kid, but since you want to risk it....

they want you to pursue, tehy will play hard to get a lot and you will ahve to deal with they family if things get serious, other then that will depend on how she really is, but the universal rules here are still up, ask her out and escalate
I would say ignore her, since she have a kid, but since you want to risk it....

they want you to pursue, tehy will play hard to get a lot and you will ahve to deal with they family if things get serious, other then that will depend on how she really is, but the universal rules here are still up, ask her out and escalate
I am 46 with two kids. At my age finding a woman with out kids makes me wonder whats wrong with her? Her only family in the states is her daughter. Her parents passed. I think I will up my game a few more degrees and see what comes of it! I will post my progress and insights.
 

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one thing about certain country families, you will have to deal with uncles and cousins too, they are normally close and even when they live far they keep in touch, teh good part on about tehy living far is they will not mess much the relationship.

I question why she is single mother not if she is no kids btw
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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she wants confidence and decisiveness
ex: do not ask her "where do you want to go eat" for example, you tell her we are going out to "BlaFoo"
or make a weekend activity, do not ask her what she wants to do

you got her by being bold and confident asking her out, now your back to seeing her on a pedestal so you hope she will "keep you"
wrong... that is American AFC behavior and does not fly with Euro or real "women"

be the man and lead, you dont need to be an ass/indifferent
 
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