My GF has a lot of friends in general but also has a handful of guy friends. Most of them I am friendly with and get along fine with and are usually very friendly. Some are even mutual friends that we've met at college and I would consider them as close to me as they are to her. I don't have a problem with the majority of her guy friends.
BUT, there is a little group of guys from her high school that she's been hanging around with lately through some of her girl friends. The first time I met them I felt that right off the bat something was off about them. They wouldn't look me in the eye when I went to shake their hands. They didn't look happy to see me at all. Though one of the guys seemed pretty friendly and I wound up having a conversation with him. My GF described me to them as the "cool" kids in her high school. They're basically a bunch of bums who didn't go to college and hang out and drink/smoke every night. My gf is out of college and living at home while I'm at grad school about 20 minutes away from her. I see her at least once a week and normally it's more than that.
Anyway fast forward to the second time I was hanging out with them. We were at some crappy dive bar. But this time I noticed the friendly dude wasn't as happy to see me. I noticed way he would look when I kissed her/hugged her/grabbed her ass. He didn't look pleased. At this point I'm getting the hint that he has a little crush on her. Any way I didn't interact with them a whole lot that night I spent most of my time with my gf and other friends and even kissed her in front of him just to piss him off a little more.
Third time hanging out. Same guy was texting my gf like all night to see what was going on. The guy and one of his friends show up late at some bar and I'm with my gf and some of her other home friends. I eventually went to shake their hands and the guy seems like he wants nothing to do with me. He won't even look at me the entire time. I'm just like fvck it and start kissing my gf. Eventually later in the night he starts to get a little confrontational. I was absolutely wasted and just brushed him off I can't even remember what he said or what went on. I remember him trying to talk to my gf though and her eventually coming back to me.
That night I'm completely ****faced and we end up at someones house. I start making fun of one of the guy's nicknames out loud like a drunk idiot and my gf says "stop, you're gonna get beat up (other kid that doesn't have the crush on my gf) already doesn't like you". Of course like a moron I kept on going. The guy is actually pretty big and would probably take me. I'm like 5'10 160, he's like roughly twice my size in weight. But I think I'm rambo when I'm drunk so it didn't stop me. Nothing else really happened that night. But it was clear that these guys didn't like me. Me and the GF had some great sex that night.
My view of this story is as follows. These group of guys can care less about my gf. The only one that does is the one that obviously has a crush on her. They are just trying to be bros and help him score. This is why none of them cared when they met me. They really aren't her friends but my gf obviously doesn't see this.
My issues. I'm really not sure how to deal with these kids. They are constantly trying to text my gf and her friends to hang out. We obviously don't like each other and I'm not willing to hang out with these kids again. I'm not gonna tell my gf that she can't hang out with them because she can do whatever she wants but I'm not going to hang out with a bunch of guys in which we mutually hate each other.
As for these guys, I keep on thinking about egging the shyt out of their houses or something but I really don't know what to do about them. As for my gf, it's going to have a real problem if she's going to respect these guys opinion of me over my opinion of them. I guess it will be a real test when this comes up. Any stories or advice besides "dump your gf" or diagnosing her with some sort of personality disorder?
BUT, there is a little group of guys from her high school that she's been hanging around with lately through some of her girl friends. The first time I met them I felt that right off the bat something was off about them. They wouldn't look me in the eye when I went to shake their hands. They didn't look happy to see me at all. Though one of the guys seemed pretty friendly and I wound up having a conversation with him. My GF described me to them as the "cool" kids in her high school. They're basically a bunch of bums who didn't go to college and hang out and drink/smoke every night. My gf is out of college and living at home while I'm at grad school about 20 minutes away from her. I see her at least once a week and normally it's more than that.
Anyway fast forward to the second time I was hanging out with them. We were at some crappy dive bar. But this time I noticed the friendly dude wasn't as happy to see me. I noticed way he would look when I kissed her/hugged her/grabbed her ass. He didn't look pleased. At this point I'm getting the hint that he has a little crush on her. Any way I didn't interact with them a whole lot that night I spent most of my time with my gf and other friends and even kissed her in front of him just to piss him off a little more.
Third time hanging out. Same guy was texting my gf like all night to see what was going on. The guy and one of his friends show up late at some bar and I'm with my gf and some of her other home friends. I eventually went to shake their hands and the guy seems like he wants nothing to do with me. He won't even look at me the entire time. I'm just like fvck it and start kissing my gf. Eventually later in the night he starts to get a little confrontational. I was absolutely wasted and just brushed him off I can't even remember what he said or what went on. I remember him trying to talk to my gf though and her eventually coming back to me.
That night I'm completely ****faced and we end up at someones house. I start making fun of one of the guy's nicknames out loud like a drunk idiot and my gf says "stop, you're gonna get beat up (other kid that doesn't have the crush on my gf) already doesn't like you". Of course like a moron I kept on going. The guy is actually pretty big and would probably take me. I'm like 5'10 160, he's like roughly twice my size in weight. But I think I'm rambo when I'm drunk so it didn't stop me. Nothing else really happened that night. But it was clear that these guys didn't like me. Me and the GF had some great sex that night.
My view of this story is as follows. These group of guys can care less about my gf. The only one that does is the one that obviously has a crush on her. They are just trying to be bros and help him score. This is why none of them cared when they met me. They really aren't her friends but my gf obviously doesn't see this.
My issues. I'm really not sure how to deal with these kids. They are constantly trying to text my gf and her friends to hang out. We obviously don't like each other and I'm not willing to hang out with these kids again. I'm not gonna tell my gf that she can't hang out with them because she can do whatever she wants but I'm not going to hang out with a bunch of guys in which we mutually hate each other.
As for these guys, I keep on thinking about egging the shyt out of their houses or something but I really don't know what to do about them. As for my gf, it's going to have a real problem if she's going to respect these guys opinion of me over my opinion of them. I guess it will be a real test when this comes up. Any stories or advice besides "dump your gf" or diagnosing her with some sort of personality disorder?
